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10 SURE SIGNS HE PRETENDS TO LOVE YOU

10 SURE SIGNS HE PRETENDS TO LOVE YOU

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You’re in a relationship and you’re trying to figure out if he really loves you or not.

You know that he acts like he loves you, but something inside tells you that there’s something off about it.

Is it possible for a man to pretend to love someone?

The answer is yes, it’s very much possible for a man to pretend to love someone.

Here are some signs he pretends to love you:

10 Signs He Pretends To Love You

1. He Does Not Communicate

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One hallmark of a healthy and balanced relationship is communication.

It is indisputable and cannot be overlooked.

A healthy relationship that is based on mutual love survives and thrives on communication.

Communication is not just about talking.

Communication can be carried out through words and actions.

Everyone cannot be an excellent, all-star communicator, nevertheless, true love communicates.

Do not forget that indeed, true love communicates.

It is very important to hold on to that fact.

A man who loves you will communicate his feelings to you clearly.

So, if any communication of any and every kind is lacking in your relationship, you might need to take mental stock of the situation.

Communication also involves listening.

Does he listen to you? Do you feel heard? Do you feel like you hit a brick wall while relating to him? Then, he might be pretending to be in love with you.

For a man who is truly in love, his communication is crystal clear.

There is no ambiguity and no room for doubts.

 

2. Zero Accountability

True love is accountable.

A man who loves you is accountable to you in everything.

You don’t have to force accountability if the love is true.

When the feelings are there, and the motives are pure, accountability is effortless.

A man who truly loves you will accept responsibility for his actions towards you and for how he makes you feel in every way.

Don’t be deceived, a man can be accountable to you when the love is pure.

You don’t have to settle for less.

 

3. R for Responsible

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Love is responsibility.

Confessing and admitting that you are in love is declaring and claiming responsibility. 

If it is love indeed, the man will be responsible towards you.

He will be answerable for his actions that affect the growth and progress of the relationship.

A man in love understands that a relationship is a responsibility, and he is required to do everything in his power to take care of it.

If the love is real, you won’t have to force him to be responsible towards you and the relationship.

A responsible man reciprocates the gestures you make towards growing the relationship.

If you find out that you’re the only one running up and down to make the relationship work, it’s a clear sign he pretends to love you.

It’s not uncommon to find some men declare to high heavens how much they love you, but their actions never match their words and you’re left to wonder.

That’s a huge sign right there, babe.

You don’t just talk; you walk the talk—if your intentions are right.

So, don’t be deceived by love declarations that do not translate to actions.

 

4. Does He Show up?

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A man who is pretending to love you shows up just enough to not be suspected. 

He does not have to be there a hundred percent of the time, but if most of the time, you discover it is more absence than presence, he’s not around when you need him, he does not show up, and he’s never there, he might be faking his feelings.

True love shows up. True love makes you feel that you’re not alone.

A lot of women are in a relationship, yet feel so alone—like they’re in it alone. No emotional support whatsoever.

If this is you, review your relationship.

 

5. You Make all The Plans

A man who loves you will want to spend time with you.

He will make time for you. You won’t have to force him to spend adequate time with you and devote attention to you.

If you are the only one making the plans all of the time, chances are that you are the only one in love. 

If you find yourself always advocating for spending time together as a couple, you just might be dating yourself.

Think about it.

 

6. He Avoids The Challenges of The Relationship

No relationship is perfect.

Every relationship is unique in its own way and comes with its own challenges and difficulties and problems.

That difficulty arises in a relationship does not mean it is wrong and it certainly does not signal the end of the relationship.

But solving the problems in a relationship fosters union, intimacy, and closeness.

It also prolongs the lifetime of the relationship.

Leaving challenges lying around for too long is injurious to a relationship.

When a man avoids dealing with the issues of a relationship, a high chance exists that he might be pretending to be in love.

After all, dealing with the problems that exist in a relationship would indicate progress.

Only a man who is truly in love invests in the progress of a relationship.

It takes a lot of mental and heart work to move a relationship forward.

Pretense will not cut it, and nor will it see it through.

A man who is faking his feelings will avoid the work, he simply will not do it.

So, if, as a woman, you are the only one bothered about the challenges and problems in a relationship, you need to have a rethink.

 

7. He Says He Loves You When He wants Something from You

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Every woman loves to hear the three magic words consistently from their men.

But if you have noticed that he only tells you that he loves you when he wants something from you such as money or physical intimacy, then this could be one of the signs that he pretends to love you.

He might be saying those words just so that he can get what he wants from the relationship.

 

8. He Only Shows Affection When Others are Around

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If your guy only shows affection when other people are around and never when you are alone, it’s because he wants them to think you guys have a good relationship and don’t want them thinking otherwise.

That’s the height of pretense if you asked me.

 

9. He Doesn’t Want You to Meet His Family

Most people are eager to show off their partners to the people they love — their parents and siblings.

But if your boyfriend is pushing back on the idea of introducing you to the people who raised him, it may be time to worry about whether he’s in this for the long haul.

 

10. He Avoids talking about the future

If he’s not talking about the future with you, it means he doesn’t see one with you in it.

He might be taking things slowly, but if he’s not making any effort to make things serious, then it means that he doesn’t want to commit himself or make things serious with you.

Most of the time, women can tell if a man loves them or pretending to. 

This article is just a confirmation of what you’ve been suspecting. 

A healthy relationship based on mutual love and interest is not a taboo, it is possible, and you can have it.

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Stefanie

Saturday 28th of January 2023

Where do you get this stuff??? This is literally every man. This is worse than reading a horoscope that makes blanketed statements so that it just fits enough to everyone!

Amy

Friday 20th of January 2023

My husband of 24 years matches every single one of those signs.I know everything i was feeling and still feel is valid and yet he trys to make me feel like i'm the crazy one. Apart from that I found out 8 yrs ago that he had cheated on me with 3 different women.I have several children with him and worry that it will affect them signficantly if I were to divorce, especially the younger ones'. But this relationship has and is taking a toll on me and I'm ready to be happy and more so to know how it feels to be truly loved.

Hadjirah

Wednesday 28th of December 2022

Thanks so much

Linda

Thursday 1st of December 2022

My baby daddy is the exact definition of a man pretending to love you...I love him..I know most of his family members, but he's not interested in knowing mine...we've known each other now for 20 years...and he hasn't even made this official...should I walk out...I want to settle

Kat

Friday 30th of December 2022

@Linda, hello dear, first ask yourself are you in LOVE with HIM or are you in love with the THOUGHT of being in love. Or are you in love with the person you WANT him to be rather than the person he is. If you believe you're truly in love with him, the way he is now, then why? What do you love about him? He's left you feeling unsure of your place in his heart and your importance to him. He is not concerned about the fact you want a stable, firm, committed relationship for life because he's making no efforts to move in that direction. You're the mother of his child but he hasn't made you his wife or given his child a secure family unit so how is he proving that you're any diff to him than anyone else he's dated? Also,if he truly loves you and sees a future with you then he would want to meet your family and know the ppl that are most important to you and you to them. He would want to hear stories with your family about your childhood and learn every detail about you and what makes you..well you..and happy. You shouldn't be forced to ask strangers questions you already know the answer too. You deserve to be their one and only option they want. Not be strung along while they're debating other options. You've known him 20 yrs? I think you have patiently given him plenty of time. He knows that as much as he's doing right now is just enough to get you to stick around because you've shown him that for 20 yrs. Stop sticking around sweetie. You don't want your precious child to get the impression that the bare minimum is sufficient for them to receive to constitute a healthy relationship. You feel your child is worth more than the bare minimum if they were in a relationship right?? You're worth it too sweetie. The longer you settle and remain unfulfilled,the longer the man that deserves your time and your heart has to sit by waiting to meet the woman of his dreams. You're worth everything that you're looking for in a relationship, maybe the person you're looking for it from is the one that isn't worth it. Show him your worth by seeking out better things. YOU matter! Hope this helped or at least gave you a bit to think about Best of Luck Hun.

Lesa pickard

Friday 28th of October 2022

This is to all the men out there in honor of my two sons you deserve exactly what women deserve someone to love you honor you affectionate honesty and all things that go with love so quit wasting all that you have inside of you that is wonderful and well worth waiting for give it to the woman that deserves it she will get back I promise and go get it baby