If you’ve spent enough time on the internet, you may have heard men advise each other not to open up to their women. Their reasons vary. But mostly, it is about being seen as weak by their women, and because they believe it will be used against them later. Now, as a woman myself, this …
Unfortunately, a lot of husbands carry and keep things they may not share with their wives. Not because they don’t trust them, but because they are not sure how to say them without sounding weak, needy, or misunderstood. As a woman, you might find this difficult to understand; you might wonder why they struggle to …
Marriage is already tough enough on its own. You’ve got bills to pay, kids to nurture, and the stress of just navigating life with another human being. But sometimes, without even realizing it, we actually make marriage harder than it needs to be. I recall watching an interview with Nigerian actress Omotola Jalade Ekeinde, in …
I understand that some people may say a man who is good to his wife is doing the bare minimum and doesn’t need praise, as if he is doing something special. Even though I don’t agree, I understand where they are coming from. Here’s my own thoughts: if we say we can shame bad husbands, …
The truth is that many people do not walk into marriage blind. The signs are usually there, but they often ignore them because sparks are flying and everything feels like a scene from a rom-com. When you’re feeling butterflies, it is easy to view things through rose-colored glasses and excuse them. Because you want your own …
Due to societal overglorification of marriage, especially when it relates to women, a lot of women have felt like they need to sacrifice everything to make it happen. Right from when a girl is little, marriage being the end goal is sold to her – sometimes subtly – and before she knows it, she joins …
Let me say right off the bat that unlike poles don’t attract when we are talking about people. With science and in the magnetic world, it’s true. But human beings are not magnets because we are more complicated than that. Therefore, we can’t make definitive statements like that when we are dealing with human beings. …
Nobody enters marriage expecting that their partner will fall for someone else. But unfortunately, life is not that black and white. And just because someone is married doesn’t mean they won’t be attracted to someone else or have feelings for them if they don’t quickly nip it in the bud. As sad and hurtful as …
Ideally, couples should be each other’s biggest cheerleaders. They should see each other as an extension of themselves, so if one person wins, the other wins. I remember watching a house tour video of Adrienne Bailon – now Houghton. In the video, she got to her husband’s Grammy Awards collection and called herself a Grammy …
I can imagine how devastating it must be to hear that your wife no longer finds you attractive. I imagine it is almost as grievous as hearing your wife no longer loves you. For some people, it may mean the same thing, in fact. I say “almost” because I believe love is more a decision …