When I met my man, we were friends first because we met in church.
However, after a while, I noticed that he started treating me differently, and I suspected that he had feelings for me.
I was afraid initially because I also had feelings for him, so I was certain I was projecting my feelings on him.
If you’ve been a victim of thinking a guy liked you when he didn’t, I have, you will understand my caution.
But his feelings became so obvious that I couldn’t deny it any longer. From his words and actions, it was clear he thought I was the one for him.
Experiencing how my man treated me and juxtaposing it with the other guy, whom I projected my feelings on, the difference was so clear.
Those two experiences taught me how to identify when a guy thinks you are the one and when he’s just being kind or he’s with you only for a good time, not a long time.
And I will be helping you identify that in this article.
That said, let’s get right to it.
9 Signs He Thinks You Are the One
1. He respects you
When a man truly believes you’re the one, he will respect you as an extension of his love for you.
You will see that his respect for you drives the way he treats you.
He will listen when you talk, value your boundaries, and never try to belittle your feelings.
You’ll also notice that he speaks to you kindly, even during disagreements, because he doesn’t want to hurt you or make you feel small.
And it’s not just about his words; even his actions will prove that he respects you.
When a man respects your time, space, and individuality, it’s a clear sign he sees you as someone worth building forever with.
Now, I am not saying a guy who doesn’t think you are the one won’t respect you; if he were raised well, he probably would.
But that is why we have other points on this list that, combined with this point, should help you correctly identify a guy who thinks you are the one for him.
2. He seeks emotional intimacy
If he’s emotionally open with you, that’s a strong sign he sees you as more than just a passing connection.
A man who’s only there for a physical connection is only there for a good time; he doesn’t want to know you and is not interested in you knowing him.
But the man we are speaking about doesn’t just want to share good times; he wants emotional intimacy with you.
So, he’s willing to be vulnerable about his fears, dreams, and even insecurities.
He’ll also ask you about your feelings, not out of obligation, but because he genuinely cares about you; he wants to know who you are.
When a man seeks that level of closeness, it means he wants a deeper bond that goes beyond surface attraction.
That’s how you know he’s emotionally invested and sees you as the one.
3. He makes future plans with you
When a man constantly includes you in his future, just know you’re no longer just dating; he’s basically making sure you know the direction he has in mind.
He wants to make sure you know he is not with you for a fling; he has plans for the relationship.
So, you’ll notice that he talks about things months or even years ahead and uses phrases like “when we…” or “next year, we should…” without hesitation.
This kind of man will not be vague or avoid the topic of commitment.
Instead, he will naturally build a picture of life with you in it.
You will see yourself in the picture, no matter what plans he is making; travel, career, or long-term goals.
When a man is planning ahead with you, he is quietly telling you he’s already chosen you.
4. He uses “we”
This little word says a lot about how a man sees you.
When he starts saying “we” instead of “I,” it shows he no longer sees himself as separate from you.
He sees both of you as a unit and as partners.
Using “we” more is a subtle but powerful way to know a guy has emotionally merged your lives in his mind.
It means you’re now part of his decisions, his routines, and even his identity.
This is particularly true when a man does this naturally, without you forcing it or even mentioning it.
It’s a sure sign he sees you as his partner for the long haul.
5. He brings you around his loved ones
A man who thinks you’re the one won’t keep you hidden from his world.
He’ll want the people who matter to him to know and love you, too.
That means he will introduce you to his family, close friends, or even colleagues.
Now, let me add a caveat – sometimes, a man might not quickly bring you around their parents if he comes from a conservative society.
In some societies or even families, you only introduce your significant other to your parents when marriage is in view.
However, even in this case, they would still bring you around or introduce you to their siblings and colleagues.
Also, bringing you around loved ones does not mean he will announce his relationship on social media.
Some people are not social media savvy, and some believe social media publicity affects relationships.
I have a different view, but I understand why some people feel that way.
I am saying all these so you don’t misjudge a good man because he doesn’t post you on social media.
If that’s important to you, though, you can have a conversation about it with him, going with an open mind to hear his views.
If he is not only dating you indoors, but also introduces you as his girl when you are out and brings you around friends, then you likely have nothing to worry about.
That man clearly wants to blend his life with yours because he thinks you are the one.
If he keeps you hidden and makes you a secret, he is likely not proud of you.
6. He puts effort into making the relationship work
Every relationship hits rough patches, but a man who believes you’re the one won’t just walk away when things get tough.
Rather, he’ll want to fix what’s broken and grow through challenges together.
You’ll see him trying to communicate better, showing patience, or doing small things to make you feel loved again.
When a guy is consistent in his effort towards the relationship, it’s because he knows what he has in you and doesn’t want to lose it.
That’s why real effort is one of the clearest signs that a man’s heart is all in.
7. He is proactive in moving the relationship along
When a man truly sees you as the one, you won’t have to wonder where you stand in his life.
Because he’ll take initiative in defining the relationship, setting goals, and moving things forward at a steady pace.
He won’t wait for you to bring up serious topics like exclusivity, commitment, or the future; he’ll do it himself.
And he won’t just say it, he’ll back his words with actions.
8. He values your opinion
When a man asks for your opinion and values what you think, it shows he feels you’re a part of him.
He’ll ask for your input before making big decisions and actually consider your perspective.
You’ll also notice he doesn’t just listen to reply; he listens to understand.
That’s because he sees you as a partner, not a bystander in his life.
It’s also clear he trusts your judgment and sees you as someone he wants by his side long-term.
9. He tells you
Sometimes, the sign is simple; he tells you.
When a man believes you’re the one, he’ll say it consistently.
Now, this doesn’t mean he will use poetic lines, because some men are shy and some are not that eloquent.
So, while some men will be direct and have the most creative lines, others might be more subtle.
They may say things like, “I’ve never felt this way before”, or “I can really see a future with you”, and other similar sentences.
But more than his words, if his actions also match, that’s all the confirmation you need.