There’s a hidden truth about men that a lot of people do not know.
And this truth is often uncovered in marriage.
The thing is, even when it has been uncovered in the marriage, a woman may not see it for what it is.
What is this hidden truth?
Men are big babies.
Surprised?
Dear man reading this, forgive me.
I do not mean to uncover your secrets.
Dear woman, your man is a big baby.
As much as your husbands like to take charge and be the head of the home, they also want to be treated with tender, loving care as you would a baby.
They like to be pampered, held and watched over like a mother hen would her chicks.
So, now that you know this, in what ways can you show your husband that tender, loving care he so desires?
It is one thing to tell him that you love him.
It is another thing to back your words with actions that perfectly describe what you are trying to convey.
7 Ways to Show Your Husband You Care
1. Listen Actively
One of the reasons people truly appreciate having their own person is that they get to have someone who truly sees, hears, and understands them.
So, if you give full attention to your husband when he is talking, you have a powerful way of letting him know that you care about him.
And how do you listen actively?
When he is having a conversation with you, remove distractions, make eye contact, and actively engage in the conversation.
Also, give him feedback that shows that you understand and value his thoughts and feelings.
2. Show Physical Affection
Sometimes, I whisper thanksgiving, which was no longer allowed at that time when it was forbidden for women to initiate physical shows of affection with their husbands.
Back then, women who initiated affection were considered loose.
Today, however, women are free to express their affection to their husbands in whatever way they deem fit.
So what is holding you back from showing physical affection to your husband?
Simple gestures like holding hands, hugging, or cuddling can go a long way toward showing your husband how much you love and care about him.
In addition, physical touch can also help reduce the stress he experiences every day and increase the feeling of closeness between you two.
So be intentional about showing your husband physical affection, and watch how it can change the game of intimacy between you two.
3. Show Appreciation for His Efforts
Your husband has been putting his feet down and trying his best to ensure that the family stays together.
And even when you feel like he is not trying enough, showing ingratitude and contempt for his effort is not the way to encourage him to do more.
When you acknowledge and appreciate his efforts, it makes him feel valued and respected.
Being a man in itself is already a lot of work.
There are so many expectations from society and the family.
Sometimes, it leaves them overwhelmed and unsure of what to do to fulfill these expectations.
But when you are constantly grateful for him and the things he does, you ease him of the pressure that comes with all the pressure and give him the opportunity to do even better.
He always says ‘thank you’ for everything he does, no matter how seemingly insignificant.
And every now and then, praise him for his strength and wins.
4. Cook His Favorite Meal
It is said that “the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.”
And this isn’t so far from the truth.
Men love it when their women cook for them.
Maybe not really universally, yeah.
But in my part of the world, it is a big deal whether or not a woman cooks for her husband.
But aside from it being a societal demand, I feel like cooking your husband’s favorite meal for him is a thoughtful way to show you care.
I read a post where a husband said to his wife that his favorite thing about her is her food.
He went on to explain that he didn’t just like food; he liked his wife’s food.
Why?
He felt like she tailored every meal she made in their home to suit his taste and needs.
That one effort to make the meals ‘for him’ turned out to be something he adores so much.
It is true that the world is becoming digital, and women can choose the easier way instead of working hard to cook meals, but doing that for your husband shows that you pay attention to his likes and are willing to put in the effort to make him happy.
5. Show Interest in His Interests
Let’s take soccer as an example (it is the most popular game loved by men in my part of the world).
There are quite a number of women who are genuinely interested in the games.
But if you ask most of the women who follow the game, they will tell you that they do so because of their men.
Watching soccer is a big deal to these men, and the importance they place on this game can cause trouble in their relationships.
But a wise woman is the one who, rather than try to compete with the game for her man’s attention, joins her husband in his interest in the game.
Taking an interest in your husband’s hobbies and passions can help you bond when doing them together.
Even when you are not exactly interested in these things, showing some level of curiosity and participating occasionally will make him feel that you support and understand him.
6. Surprise Him with Thoughtful Gestures
Husbands are laden with so many responsibilities that many times they forget the importance of their own person.
They want to provide for the family, hold the family together, and keep the family happy.
But who does all this for them?
It is the reason why you must make a habit of surprising him with thoughtful gestures every now and then.
Doing this will put a smile on his face, ease his stress a little, and make him feel loved and appreciated.
You really don’t have to do anything extravagant; but if you can afford it, why not?
Imagine clearing up a bill he would have had to clear with a part of his next salary, helping him save some money.
Or replacing something of his that is worn out or exhausted.
Or sliding some notes into his wallet.
I find that some men are very touchy with the issue of their wives handling any bill in the house.
But you know your husband, and you know what will work just fine with him.
7. Be Patient and Understanding
Everyone has their bad days and down moments.
And what is that thing they say about a friend in need?
It is during your husband’s down moments that he can really tell how you feel about him.
So, in his weakest moments, you must be your strongest.
Be patient and understanding.
Even if you need something from him at that time, be strong enough to put his needs first.
That time is not the time to nag him about anything.
Rather, if he needs space, let him have it.
Hold his hands through tough times, and let him know that you are a safe place whenever he needs to have an unburdening conversation.
Knowing that you are by his side can give him the strength to overcome the situation.
What kind of man do you want to have at home?
The grumpy, aggressive one?
Or the calm, satisfied, and happy one?
It is all in your hands.
You can make your husband what you want him to be if only you play your cards well.
So, if you have decided that you want a man who is all lovey-dovey with you, become lovey-dovey with him.