I will be honest; I personally detested the term “alpha male” for the longest time.
Not because I didn’t understand that it could have a positive connotation, but because, for the longest time, all I saw was the red pill movement claiming to be alpha male.
However, in the spirit of graciousness, I decided I needed to acknowledge the actual alpha male, who is not the usual loud, chest-beating guy who needs to be the center of attention.
But the guy whose quiet confidence and leadership qualities are palpable and admirable.
And when I decided to do that, I was then ready to admit how beautiful it is when a man with that kind of grounded masculinity falls in love.
While he wouldn’t necessarily write poetry or pour his heart out to you in a way that melts your heart, you will see it in his actions, because most of them are all about the action.
However, because of the bad rep alpha males have, you may be dating someone who fits this mold, and wondering if you’re in the right relationship, especially as he may not be vocalizing his feelings.
In this article, I will show you the attractive ways alpha males demonstrate love, even without saying a word.
8 Attractive Ways Alpha Males Show Love
1. He takes charge
We have already agreed that alpha males have leadership qualities, so one of the major ways they show their love is by taking charge.
And I must say, there is nothing sexier than a man who says, “Be ready at 7, I’ve got this handled.”
When you have this kind of man, you’ll understand how tiring endless “I don’t know, what do you want to do?” is.
An alpha male shows he cares by removing the mental load from you.
For instance, because he knows you’ve had a long week, he may take the load off you by making the reservation, planning the route, and handling all the logistics to pamper you.
Watching from the outside, you may think he’s being controlling, but he’s not; he’s being a leader.
And he values your time and wants to ensure you have a good experience.
2. He is protective
You know that move where he instinctively puts his arm across you when he has to brake hard in the car?
Or how he always positions himself between you and the street traffic?
That is a signature alpha male move right there.
When an alpha male loves you, his number one job becomes keeping you safe.
In fact, he relishes the fact that he can do it right.
He will check your tires before a road trip or insist on walking you to your door, even if it’s safe.
Some people might call it old-fashioned, but for this kind of man, it’s a way of showing you’re his woman.
So, he feels a responsibility to protect you and make sure you’re safe.
Also, he’s doing it because, to him, you are the most valuable thing in his world, and he’s not taking any chances with you.
3. He pushes you to be better
Contrary to popular belief that alpha males want subservient women who depend on them for everything, a true alpha isn’t intimidated by a strong and successful woman.
In fact, he craves one.
If you can’t relate to this, you are likely dealing with an insecure man who is pretending to be an alpha.
One of the biggest signs a true alpha male loves you is that he won’t let you settle for mediocrity.
If you tell him about a dream or a goal, he won’t brush it off; rather, he may even take it more seriously than you do.
He will ask you for a plan, help you brainstorm, and challenge your doubts.
Sometimes, it may even feel a bit intense, and it might seem like you are with your coach or mentor rather than a boyfriend.
But he does it because he sees your potential, and he wants you to win.
4. He fixes things
Alpha males are fixers.
Just mention a leaky faucet or a weird noise your car is making, and they will get it done, no question.
He might not sit and analyze your feelings about the broken faucet for an hour, but he will show up with a toolbox to fix it.
For men like this, fixing your problems is more important because they want to make your life easier and smoother.
And this applies to non-physical problems too.
If someone is giving you a hard time at work or you’re dealing with a difficult family situation, he steps in with solutions.
I know, as women, we like speaking about our problems, and we just need a shoulder to cry on sometimes or an outlet to vent.
But alpha males are solution-oriented.
And while you might hate it, understand that it’s because he hates seeing you stressed, and so, he just wants to slay the dragons for you.
5. He is sweetly possessive
There is a kind of possessiveness that stiffles you and suffocates you.
If that’s what you’re experiencing, you should flee; that’s not the context to which I’m using the word.
I’m not talking about jealous, toxic control here.
I’m talking about that confident hand on the small of your back when you walk through a crowded room.
Or the way he holds your hand firmly or pulls you in close when you’re standing together.
You know, that sweet but assured way of marking his territory and making every man in the room know that you’re taken.
Yes, that’s the kind I’m talking about.
That’s really how alpha males show you that they are proud to be with you, and don’t mind letting the world know you are together.
7. He is honest and direct
An alpha male doesn’t play games, so you will always know where you stand with him.
You won’t find him leaving you on “read” for three hours to make you wonder, or being passive-aggressive when he’s mad.
If he has an issue, he will tell you.
If he likes you, he will inform you.
And if he wants something, you will know it.
With an alpha male, you may even find his bluntness jarring at times, especially if you are used to guessing games.
But when a man gives you that, it is actually the highest form of respect.
It’s a sign that he loves you enough to give you the truth, even when it’s uncomfortable.
Also, it means he trusts you to handle it.
8. He includes you in his future
Alpha males usually have a plan for where they are going in life.
But more importantly, they make sure you know you’re included in that plan.
That’s when you see them using “we” instead of “I” when talking about the future.
In case you don’t think it is, trust me, it’s a massive deal.
On the one hand, it shows that you’re not dating a lazy bum who doesn’t know his left from his right.
But you are with a man who is building an empire or a career.
Secondly, it shows that he pictures you in his future empire.
So, you will see him include you in everything, from something as simple as going on a vacation to things as serious as buying a house.
An alpha male will always factor you into his long-term goals.