Every other day, you see a lady crying on social media about how her man of many years has yet to propose to her.
Or you see another case where a man married a lady he met 3 months ago, while he never proposed to the one before her, even after ten years.
All this is to say, men know what they are doing; if he wants to marry you, he will.
If he doesn’t, he likely won’t.
But I understand that sometimes, we need more clarity about it, though, because it is not easy to think clearly when you are in a particular situation.
When you love a man, it’s easy to be swept by his lies because you want to believe them.
After all, it’s easier to believe your man is trying to get finances in order to marry you rather than assume he just doesn’t want to.
So, in this post, I will be showing the ways to know your man is not interested in marrying you, even if he says otherwise.
That said, let’s discuss them.
8 Ways to Know Your Man Is Not Interested In Marrying You
1. He avoids the topic
There is no better proof that a man doesn’t want to be with you than when he avoids the topic when you bring it up.
If every time you bring up marriage, he suddenly changes the subject, jokes about it, or acts irritated, that’s not a good sign.
A man who wants to marry you won’t run from the conversation.
In fact, he will likely be the one to bring it up.
And even if he doesn’t, he’ll be open to discussing the future with you.
Avoidance, on the other hand, shows he’s either unsure about you or doesn’t see marriage in the picture at all.
You shouldn’t have to drag someone into a conversation about forever if they actually want it with you.
I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to marry someone like that either.
Marriage is a big deal, and you shouldn’t be in a union with someone who wasn’t absolutely sure they wanted to be with you.
2. He doesn’t believe in marriage
When a man tells you he doesn’t believe in marriage, believe him.
When a man constantly says things like “marriage is just a piece of paper” or “people don’t need marriage to prove love,” he’s telling you where he stands.
Don’t try to explain it away or rationalize it; he is telling you exactly how it is.
He won’t marry you.
It’s one thing if he genuinely questions the institution, but if you’ve made it clear that marriage is important to you and he still dismisses it, it’s clear there’s a mismatch in values.
A man who wants to marry you may have his doubts, but he’ll still be willing to build that future because he values you and what you want.
3. He doesn’t move the relationship along
If you’ve been together for years and the relationship feels stuck, it’s time to pay attention.
A man who wants to marry you will make some effort to move things forward.
He will encourage and push for meeting the families.
He will also talk about plans or set goals together.
Basically, you will see him making moves that show his commitment to the relationship.
When he doesn’t do any of that, that means he’s comfortable where things are – maybe too comfortable.
Men who see a future with you don’t leave you hanging; they take steps towards making that future real.
4. He acts distant
When a man is emotionally distant, it’s often because his heart isn’t fully in it.
He might still be around physically, but emotionally, you’ll feel an obvious gap between you.
A man who sees you as his future partner will want to connect with you.
He’ll share his thoughts, worries, and dreams with you
He won’t just be comfortable with the physical things.
Of course, if y’all are not celibate, he will still want that, but much more, he will want to connect with your soul.
I know that sounds like an exaggeration, but it’s actually not.
When a guy doesn’t look like he wants to know the deepest part of you, if he keeps you at arm’s length, rarely opens up, and seems uninterested in deep conversations, that’s a sign he’s not investing long-term.
Marriage requires closeness, and he’s already showing you he’s not here for that by not getting too deep.
5. He doesn’t respect you
Like I always say, when someone loves you, they will respect you.
Besides that, respect is the foundation of any serious relationship.
If a man constantly talks down on you, ignores your opinions, or belittles your feelings, he’s not seeing you as someone to build a life with.
I mean, even if he wanted to marry you, I wouldn’t advise you to marry a man like that.
Disrespectful men are at the top of the list of men you should never consider dating, not to mention marrying.
But that aside, a man who doesn’t respect you likely doesn’t want to marry you.
If he wants to marry you, he will value your voice, even when you disagree.
He will listen, support, and treat you with kindness.
But disrespect signals that he doesn’t see your worth, and men hardly marry someone they don’t truly respect.
6. He is not interested in your life
If he never asks about your work, your dreams, or your daily life, he’s not thinking long-term.
A man who wants to marry you will be genuinely curious about everything that makes you who you are.
He’ll celebrate your wins, check in when you’re stressed, and wants to understand your world.
When he doesn’t, it’s because he doesn’t plan to be part of it for long.
Indifference is one of the most apparent signs that you are not in someone’s heart.
If you were, it would clearly show in how interested they’d be in your life.
7. He doesn’t involve you in his life
You can tell a lot about how a man feels by how much access he gives you to his world.
If you don’t know his friends, family, or even the basic details about his daily routine, that’s a sign he’s keeping you at a distance.
A man who wants to marry you will naturally bring you into his life because he’s proud to have you in it.
Plus, that’s his way of meshing your lives together.
But if you’re always on the outside looking in, it’s because he doesn’t see you as part of his future.
8. He doesn’t bring you around his people
When a man is serious about you, he’ll want the people he cares about to know you.
I always say when a man loves you, you won’t doubt it; he would shout it on the rooftop if he could.
So, he will likely tell the people that matter about you; he won’t keep you a secret.
You’ll meet his friends, family, and maybe even coworkers.
But if he keeps you away from them, always finding an excuse or saying “it’s not the right time,” that’s a major red flag.
It means he’s either not ready or willing to make your relationship public or permanent.
A man who sees you as his future wife won’t hide you; he’ll proudly show you off.