If there is one thing I’ve learnt in my 30-something years in this world, it is that the type of person you allow into your life can make or mar you.
Some women have started out being very refreshing and positive, but their lives turned entirely opposite because they fell into the hands of the wrong man.
And you don’t even have to be married for this to happen; even a wrong relationship can turn you onto a completely different trajectory.
This is why women must know the types of men they should never date, right from when they start dating.
Of course, I understand we might not know these things when we are really young, but as adults, we really have no excuse.
So, if you’re wondering the types of men we’re talking about, keep reading.
15 Types of Men You Should Never Date
1. The Narcissist
The thing with a narcissist is that he might charm you at first with his confidence.
But it won’t take long before you realize his world only revolves around him.
Before long, you will see that he craves constant praise, dismisses your feelings, and makes every issue about himself.
And when you need support, he won’t be present.
Even if he is, he will find a way to make it about himself.
But I think that’s not the worst part about being a narcissist; they are also mostly manipulators and gaslighters.
So, dating a narcissist will drain your self-esteem because you’ll keep giving without getting anything in return.
Therefore, if you’re looking for a partner, he is the wrong choice since he’s not looking for one; he’s rather looking for an audience.
And trust me, you don’t want to spend your life competing with a man’s ego.
2. The Mama’s Boy
A guy loving his mother is definitely a good sign.
If he didn’t, that’s also a problem.
So the issue is not that he loves his mama but that he worships her to the point that she makes every decision in his life.
If you date a mama’s boy, you’re basically entering a relationship with him and his mother.
Because she’ll influence every decision and be a resounding voice in your relationship.
And the worst part is, he won’t see it as a problem because that’s his ideal.”
So, unless you want to fight invisible battles with your mother-in-law forever, avoid the man who doesn’t understand leaving and cleaving.
3. The Commitment-Phobe
The commitment-phobe loves hanging out, spending time, and maybe even telling you how much you mean to him.
But the second you bring up the future, he freezes because he is not there for that.
He is there for a good time, not a long time.
So, he will waste years of your life while you wait for him to be ready.
But let me tell you the truth right off the bat: he’ll probably never be ready.
So, you must smell the coffee and not live in delulu land.
Remember that you deserve a man who sees a future with you, not someone who acts like marriage or long-term plans are a prison sentence.
If he’s always dodging the “what are we?” talk, believe him – he’s not serious.
4. The Control Freak
At first, it might seem like he’s just confident and knows what he wants.
But soon, you’ll realize he wants to control everything, including what you wear, who you talk to, and how you live.
They are usually slick, though, because they hide behind phrases like “I just care about you” or “I’m only trying to protect you.”
The truth is, he’s not comfortable with your independence, so he wants to choke it.
And the more you give in, the smaller you’ll become.
A relationship should feel freeing, not like you’re living under surveillance.
If his love feels more like a leash, run.
5. The Serial Cheater
I mean, this goes without saying.
And I will never understand why women do this to themselves.
It’s really that simple: do you want someone who’s for everybody or a man who’s solely for you?
Answer the question and make the decision.
Now, I’m not saying someone can’t make a mistake.
But if a man has a history of cheating and doesn’t take real responsibility for it, believe that he’ll do it again.
Because the serial cheater thrives on attention and doesn’t care about the emotional wreckage he leaves behind.
So one woman will never be enough for him.
I believe it is clear, then why you shouldn’t subject yourself to that.
6. The Gold Digger
Believe it or not, it’s not only women who dig for gold; some men are just as calculating.
If you meet a guy who seems more interested in your lifestyle, connections, or bank account than your personality, you’ve got a gold digger in your hands.
He might start with little hints like “you’re so lucky you have this” or subtle requests for help.
Before you know it, you’re funding his dreams while yours get ignored.
And when the money runs out, so will he.
So if you see a man who treats you like an ATM or even takes advantage of your connections but does nothing for you in return, flee.
7. The Addict
Addiction is tough, and while you might want to help him, dating someone deep in it is dangerous.
That’s because his first love isn’t you, it’s his substance.
That means your relationship will always come second to his cravings.
Also, addiction often brings lies, broken promises, and financial chaos.
And the truth is, you can’t fix him; only he can decide to get better.
If he’s not actively in recovery, staying in that relationship will drag you into his storm.
Plus, I don’t think anyone dealing with addiction should be in a relationship.
So if you want a drama-free love, you should save yourself from that trouble.
8. The Chronic Liar
You can’t build a healthy relationship with someone you cannot trust because you will constantly wonder if their words are true.
And because he is a pathological liar, he thrives in it.
So, he’ll gaslight you, twist stories, and make you feel crazy for even questioning him.
For me, that’s a form of emotional abuse that you must know you don’t deserve.
So, for your peace of mind and to avoid living in a guessing game, you’re better off single.
9. The Workaholic
Ambition is attractive, but it shouldn’t be to the extreme where someone is married to their job.
If they are, you’ll always come second.
The problem with a workaholic is that it sounds logical, so complaining might sound like you don’t care about them investing in their future.
But you should also feel like a priority in your relationship.
Of course, we are not saying he should quit his job or business to spend time with you.
But you need to go with your gut here.
If you can feel it from deep within you that you will always have to fight for his attention and he will never make time for you, you might have to leave him to his job.
Because that’s his real love.
10. The Abusive or Aggressive Guy
Like the serial cheater, this one should be non-negotiable.
If a man shows aggression – whether verbal, emotional, or physical – he’s dangerous.
Abusive men rarely start by hitting, so don’t wait until that happens.
Insults, intimidation, or “joking” comments that cut too deep are also signs, especially after you’ve told him how you feel about them, and it doesn’t stop.
In fact, there is a way a man yells at you that you know if the opportunity arises, he will hit you.
So, if you notice signs of aggression, don’t wait for proof; it’ll only get worse.
And your safety should come first.
11. The Emotionally Unavailable Man
An emotionally unavailable man is around, but he’s not really there.
For instance, you can pour out your feelings to him, and he’ll nod or change the subject because he can’t give you the emotions you need.
And when you need him to open up, he will shut down.
So, dating someone like that will constantly leave you feeling alone, even when he’s right next to you.
You need an emotional connection in a relationship for it to thrive.
If he’s not capable of giving it, you should probably tell yourself the truth.
12. The Pessimist
Life is hard enough without dating someone who complains about everything.
The pessimist has a negative outlook on the world, his life, and sometimes even on you.
So, he’ll shoot down your ideas, discourage your dreams, and make every day feel heavier than it needs to.
And the worst thing about pessimism is that it’s contagious.
If you keep being with such a man, you’ll start to see the world through his gray-tinted glasses.
And you don’t want that.
You need someone who lifts you, not someone who drags you down with constant negativity.
13. The Insecure Guy
A little insecurity is human, but when it drives everything he does, that’s too toxic a situation to be in.
The insecure man needs constant reassurance and may become jealous over the smallest things.
He’ll question why you talked to that guy at work or why you took too long to reply to him.
He will also want to stunt your growth because it will intimidate him.
It is insecure men who end up being enemies of progress.
So if you want a safe love, stay away from insecure men.
14. The Perpetual Victim
This guy never takes responsibility for anything.
If he loses his job, it’s because his boss hates him.
If his past relationships failed, all his exes were crazy.
One thing I always say is that if everyone has a problem with you, you’re the problem.
So, you need to watch out for a pattern of never taking responsibility.
The same thing will play out in your relationship.
He’ll always blame you whenever things go wrong in his life or the relationship.
I’m pretty sure you don’t want to be stuck in a cycle of excuses and self-pity.
So, do yourself a favor.
15. The Secretive Guy
Everyone deserves privacy, but if it’s getting to the extreme, then you are dealing with the secretive guy.
If a guy’s phone is always face down or he avoids direct questions, and somehow you never know much about his life beyond the surface, he’s secretive.
It means he doesn’t want to let you in.
Why be with someone who thrives on being a mystery?
If he’s serious about you, he won’t keep you in the dark about who he is or what he’s up to.
So, doing that shows he’s not serious.