Some people are probably reading this and going, “Huh, what do you mean he’s in love with two women?”
Well, it does happen.
Now, we can get into the psychology of it all to determine whether it is possible or not to be in love with two women at once.
But that would only derail the topic.
For now, let’s focus on the fact that it does happen, where a man is with two women, juggling them and believing strongly that he can’t leave one for the other.
Now, I don’t know about you, but I wouldn’t want to be in this situation.
Some women don’t mind a polygamous situation, but I can’t relate.
In my books, it’s monogamy or nothing.
If you’re like me, I’m sure you want to know if you’re being pitched against another woman.
If you’re ready, follow along as I walk you through the signs he’s in love with two women.
8 Signs He’s in Love With Two Women
1. His behavior is inconsistent
When a man is in love with two women, his behavior will be consistently inconsistent.
Did you see what I did there? Lol
Well, that’s for a little humor. 😁
Anyways, as I was saying, a guy who’s juggling two women can’t be consistent.
Some days, it will feel like you’re the only woman in his world.
On those days, he’ll be attentive, soft, and present.
And then just like that, the next day, he’s distant or cold, almost like you’ve done something wrong.
Now, this could happen occasionally in a relationship when your man is down or upset.
But it won’t be a pattern.
If this is the usual pattern where he is hot today and cold tomorrow, it’s usually because his emotions are being pulled in two directions.
If it were just you in the picture, his behavior would have a kind of rhythm.
As I said, there are times when he may be down because life can be unpredictable.
But largely, it will still be stable.
You wouldn’t feel like you’re constantly trying to “catch” him on a good day.
If you constantly feel like that, there’s a large chance you are not the only one getting his attention.
So, that inconsistency is him trying to balance it all and failing.
2. His availability is inconsistent
Now, life happens.
Work gets busy.
And sometimes, even traffic alone can disrupt someone’s day.
So yes, timing won’t always be perfect.
But even with that, a man who is focused on you will usually be predictable.
You will still know his routine, to a large extent.
For instance, you will know when he’ll likely call, when he’s unavailable, or when he’ll show up.
But with the type of man we’re talking about, his timing will always be scattered.
Today, he’s free all evening; tomorrow, he disappears for hours with no real explanation.
Again, if it’s not just once in a while, it’s fine.
But if it’s a pattern, there’s a high chance his time is being shared between two women.
So, he’s never really able to regulate his schedule.
3. You never know where you stand with him
This is something I always say.
If you’re constantly asking yourself how a man really feels about you, you likely already have your answer.
Because when a man loves you, and you’re the only one, you’ll have clarity.
You may not have a title immediately, but you won’t feel confused about his intentions.
Men are honestly that simple.
If they like you, they will make sure you know it.
When they don’t, you will always be confused.
You see, before my man and I got together, he and I were friends, and I was certain our friendship would always be platonic.
But I knew he had a crush on me; what I didn’t know was that he would ever act on it.
On the other hand, I had another friend whom I had a massive crush on and was seriously hoping felt the same way.
But for this friend, I never quite got a read on him.
I was always confused whether he had feelings for me or not.
Well, guess what? I was right; he didn’t.
Before my man and I got together, he introduced me to his girlfriend (whom I love, by the way).
But the point is that I got my answer; the reason I never got a read on him was that he didn’t see me that way.
I told you this story to see that, even in this context, while indeed the man may love you in his own way, but because you don’t have all of his heart, you will never be sure.
He’s emotionally divided, so he can’t fully focus on you.
That’s why you are in that state of limbo, where you are not quite secure, but not quite rejected either.
4. He makes vague plans
A man who is sure about you tends to plan with intention.
He makes decisive plans, and there’s clarity in how he includes you in his time because you are the only one for him.
But when a man loves two women simultaneously, things will always sound vague.
So, you will have a lot of “let’s see how it goes” in your conversations.
And it’s not even because he’s careless.
It’s because he genuinely can’t commit, since he’s trying to keep his options open.
He honestly doesn’t know where he’ll be or who he’ll be with, so he will often leave things hanging.
5. You catch him in many lies
Except you’re in a situation where you both agree to be in a polygamous or polyamorous relationship, when a guy is in love with two women, he’ll try to hide it, which will result in many lies.
And if there’s one thing I know about lies, it is that it comes out as a lie eventually.
So, eventually, you will start noticing the inconsistencies in his stories.
You’ll start seeing things that don’t quite add up.
While you may be wondering if you’re just mixing things up, the truth is quite straightforward: he’s lying.
Juggling two emotional connections requires a lot of covering up.
And no matter how careful he is, something will always slip.
When a man is fully yours, he wouldn’t need to keep track of stories because his life with you is straightforward.
So when a man has so many inconsistencies in his stories, it usually means something is fishy.
6. He acts defensively when questioned
When a man’s juggling two women, you can ask him the simplest question, and he’ll turn it into something else.
He will get irritated, shut down, or even flip it back on you.
And sometimes, he may even succeed in manipulating you into thinking you overreacted.
Let me be the first to tell you, you didn’t.
If he didn’t have anything to hide, he wouldn’t be that defensive.
He would be able to answer your simple questions.
He would be able to say where he is going and who he is meeting.
So, that defensiveness is because he’s under pressure.
And in this case, it’s the pressure of being found out or having to explain what he can’t fully explain.
7. His friends can’t seem to look you in the eyes
I’ve noticed that the best way to know how a man feels about you is how his friends act around you.
Before my man and I got together, one way I knew he had a crush on me was how his friends acted when they saw us together.
It was almost like they were rooting for him and waiting for him to say what he was feeling.
So, when his people know more than you do, it will show.
It may not be blatant, but it will show if you pay attention.
For instance, they may be polite, but with a kind of awkwardness you can’t explain.
Some of them will also avoid direct conversations or eye contact with you.
It’s because they’re being careful with their words, or they don’t quite know how to act around you, knowing what they know.
If everything were clean and clear, there would be no tension.
They’ll be very free with you.
8. You just know you don’t have all of him
And this one is hard to explain, but it’s real.
Nothing may be fully confirmed, and you may not have “evidence”, but deep down, you’ll know there’s a part of him that doesn’t belong to you.
That’s your gut or instinct warning you.
Your instinct can feel that, although he’s present, he’s not completely present.
Now, while that feeling is not always 100% true, I’ve learned not to dismiss that feeling.
At the very least, investigate why you feel that way.
Maybe it’s nothing, but what if it’s something?
You never know until you check.