Life-changing mistakes you should never make more than once in your life
If you are human, chances are that you make mistakes regularly.
Don’t fret, it does not make you a horrible person. It comes with the territory. It is okay to make wrong judgements.
You can be close to perfect, but you cannot be perfect. This is not an excuse to live a life of mediocrity.
The fact that it is okay to make mistakes does not mean you will not suffer the consequences of your actions.
Actions always have results and consequences, so you should always do your best to ensure that you do the right thing.
Mistakes, deliberate or accidental, come with consequences. You don’t leave the tap running and expect to have a dry floor. Neither do you leave the car running and expect a full tank of gas.
So, you should watch it and be careful.
A mistake is a mistake, but not all mistakes carry the same magnitude of effect.
In life, there are some life-altering errors you should not make a habit of. Be wary of these errors. These are errors that wreak too much damage to be repeated habitually
The collective effect in the long run and down the line later in life are far too injurious.
Some of them are:
1. Ignoring warning signals in a relationship
Much more important than being in a relationship is being in a healthy relationship.
Whatever has the capacity to give that much joy also has the capacity to hurt you in abundance. It is a two edged sword.
So, be careful when you are about going into a relationship. Choose wisely.
Whatever you cannot cope with at the beginning of a relationship, do not hope to change when you enter it.
Do not ignore red flags.
It is better to be alone than to suffer in a relationship. Protect yourself.
2. Poor spending and saving habit
Spending more than you earn is the fastest and surest ticket to being broke.
If you have a job, a business or basically any source of income that caters to your needs, bills and expenses, be grateful.
Show your gratitude by being judicious with your finances.
A life of long-lasting and stable convenience and comfort in terms of finance is built on knowing that it is not how much money you make, but how much money you keep.
Learn to live within and below your income rate while working towards being wealthy.
Distinguish between your needs and wants, and save faithfully.
Life and living revolves around money. Don’t fool yourself for too long. The earlier you adjust, the better.
Save and invest. Educate yourself. Be disciplined.
3. Being flippant with your job
Whatever you do, develop yourself at it. Don’t be complacent. Sharpen your skills.
Constantly develop yourself.
If you are an employee, make yourself a valuable and indispensable asset. If you own a business or you are self employed, be consistent at refinement.
The earlier you discover what you would like to do with your life, the better.
It is alright to be undecided for a while, but not for too long. Discover your passion, interests, strengths and work towards them; life requires and demands it.
Our gift back to the gift of life is what we do with it.
Think. When you wake up in the morning, what do you like to do with your day? How would you like to spend your day? With whom? In what kind of environment?
4. Disregarding your health
Your health is your most valuable asset.
Sadly, it is the most disregarded.
Most people take care of their automobiles more than they do their health.
You might get away with unhealthy life choices, but in the long run, it will catch up with you.
The biggest favour and most profitable investment you can ever take on is taking absolute care of your health.
You will not regret it. It is pleasant to live long enough to grow old with loved ones and enjoy life’s pleasure?
You cannot run away from your self, so why not invest in the most valuable asset of all?
What does it profit a person to have all the money in the world and not have the good health to enjoy it?
5. Taking people for granted
Learn to appreciate the people in your life for who they are and what they do.
We are all guilty of taking the people in our lives for granted because we are used to them.
Familiarity is an obstacle in this instance.
When was the last time you took your partner out? Bought them a gift? Did something nice for them?
And not just your partner but your friends and family. You don’t have to pass the message across verbally. Be creative and strategic in how you want to show appreciation to your loved ones.
Do this regularly and watch your relationships flow into a new and more positive dimension.
It’s all about effort.
6. Enduring toxic relationships
A relationship of any kind, if toxic, will debilitate and cause retrogression in psychological and emotional wellbeing.
Relationships should be a source of love, support, and encouragement.
If you are experiencing verbal, emotional and physical abuse in your relationships, it is not normal.
Be quick to identify and cut off associations that don’t bring out the best in you.
Toxic associations, especially when experienced for too long, result in long-lasting negative effects on self-identity.
Look out for warning signs early enough and take the necessary steps.
7. Not taking responsibility for your life
Take charge of your life. Stop blaming others for the things that wrong in your life.
The options are indeed plenty: your parents, your boss, the government, the lover who jilted you, the friend(s) who betrayed you etc.
Work towards the kind of life you desire. Don’t just sit and lie around, miserably hope for a miracle to swish things around. You are the architect of your life.
Take complete responsibility of your life. Accept, believe and act like you are in charge because you are. Then and only then, will your life begin to look like what you want it to be.
It is your job to work towards the kind of life you desire.
8. Trying to change someone
Instead of trying to change someone into the idea of what you think they should be, consider loving and accepting them the way they are.
You will find peace in the process of accepting someone than taking on the task of being a ‘changemaker’ .
Embrace people for who they are, focus on their good sides. Learn how to tolerate people’s flaws, because you have yours too.
Imagine if someone tried to mould you into an idea of what they think your ideal image should be.
If you want to see change in someone else, start with changing yourself by accepting the situation as it is.
9. Neglecting your loved ones
Your loved ones are the best support system there is. You need them, and they need you.
It is not cool and it is unnecessary to do life alone. Who better to have your back than your loved ones?
Loved ones fill the void and make life worth living.
Make efforts to spend time with those you love. Show the people in your life that you actually care about them.
In the midst of your busy schedule, create time to be with your loved ones.
Check up on your friends and families especially the elderly ones.
Do not be too busy making a living that you forget the people who are the bright side to this hectic life.