We all hate feeling embarrassed.
Even the tiniest bit of embarrassment can mess with your self-confidence and how you see things.
But what’s worse is when you are the one causing your friend to feel embarrassed.
Now, imagine it is not just some friend or a random person, and it is your husband.
The person you live with, share your life with, and love.
There could be various reasons behind this feeling, but the first step is figuring out if your husband is truly ashamed of you.
Here are some signs to watch out for.
10 Signs Your Husband Is Embarrassed By You
1. He doesn’t show you public affection
If he does not hold your hand or even show any affection in public.
He has put up an invisible wall between you and the world.
He won’t even acknowledge you as his better half when you are out and about.
Sometimes, this public affection is a kind of show-off to people around that this person is the one.
Giving you public affection means he is confident to have you by and around him.
But if he is not doing this, you should know that something is not quite right.
He probably is embarrassed by you.
2. He criticizes you constantly
Every couple has the moments of giving each other a little friendly advice or constructive criticism.
But when your husband turns into a non-stop critic, that’s a whole different ballgame.
It’s like he’s got a never-ending list of things to nitpick about.
Your hair, your outfit, the way you talk, the way you cook, nothing seems to escape his judgment.
It’s as if he’s trying to point out every little thing you do wrong.
Note this: constructive criticism is a good thing in a relationship, but when it’s just criticism for the sake of it, it can hurt.
It’s like he’s trying to make you feel small and inadequate.
That’s a sign that something’s off in the relationship.
3. He keeps secrets from you
Have you noticed that your husband has suddenly turned into Mr. Mysterious?
He’s keeping secrets, and it’s not in a fun, surprise birthday party way.
You used to share everything, from your hopes and dreams to your daily mishaps, but now he’s gone all tight-lipped.
He’s got this separate life going on, and you’re not allowed in.
He avoids talking about what’s on his mind and hides parts of his life from you.
He’s built a wall around his world, and you’re not invited to the party.
4. He doesn’t introduce you to his people
Have you noticed his reaction when you’re at a social event, and you run into his friends or colleagues?
They come up, say hi, and you expect to be introduced as his spouse.
But he doesn’t introduce you as his wife, and he doesn’t even mention your connection.
It’s like you’re just a random person he met at the grocery store.
He’s trying to downplay your relationship or keep it a secret.
He is not acknowledging you as an essential part of his life.
When your husband can’t proudly introduce you to others, then something’s amiss in your relationship.
5. He avoids spending time with you
He keeps coming up with a million reasons to bail out when you ask to spend time together.
“Sorry, I have extra work at the office,” or “I promised the guys I’d hang out.”
He is just avoiding quality time with you.
He gives different excuses not to be there when you want him to be.
That’s not a normal behavior in marriage.
Spending time together is vital in any relationship, and when your husband consistently dodges these moments, it’s a big, flashing red sign.
6. He gives negative body language
It’s a common saying that actions speak louder than words.
Very few people have mastered the art of controlling their body language.
It says a lot of things that the mouth is not saying.
It just can’t be hidden.
In this case, your husband’s body language is shouting some things that his words might not be saying.
For instance, you’re chatting, and he avoids making eye contact.
Or he turns away from you or crosses his arms when you’re around.
It’s like he’s physically pushing you away.
His body language is sending signals that he’s not comfortable or happy.
Even though he might not be saying it out loud, his actions speak volumes.
7. Is he withholding physical intimacy?
Physical intimacy is an essential part of any romantic relationship.
But when your husband starts to avoid it, it is pointing out to a lot.
And one of it could be that he’s ashamed of you.
Maybe it’s been a while since you’ve shared an affectionate moment, or he no longer initiates cuddles, kisses, or more.
The physical closeness that used to bring you two together is fading away.
This is not only the absence of sex.
The emotional connection that comes with it is missing you.
When physical intimacy dwindles, it means you’re living with a roommate rather than a romantic partner.
8. He is not supporting your goals
Of course, your husband should be your biggest cheerleader.
But if your husband doesn’t seem to support your dreams, ambitions, and goals, it can be disheartening.
You might have big aspirations, whether it’s a new career, a hobby, or personal growth.
But when your husband doesn’t encourage or show interest in what matters to you, it can feel like your dreams don’t matter.
Marriage involves supporting each other’s growth and passions.
When that support is missing, then one of the pillars holding up your connection is shaky.
9. He’s always pointing blame fingers at you
If your husband is constantly shifting blame onto you, he’s always passing the responsibility.
Every little problem, argument, or hiccup becomes your fault.
He doesn’t own up to his part in conflicts or challenges in your relationship.
It’s as if he’s trying to avoid facing his issues.
Something is wrong.
Maybe he’s embarrassed by you.
It is not normal for him to be pointing every blame at you.
We know it makes you feel like everything you do is bad.
But that’s not it.
There is an underlying cause of it.
10. He’s far, far away emotionally
He may not engage in meaningful conversations, show genuine interest in your life, or share his thoughts and feelings with you.
When you are in love, your lover is your gist partner.
You talk at great lengths for long hours without even realizing it.
But when these are not happening, there is something not good going on.
There is a massive wall between you two, and you can’t find a way to break it down.
This emotional distance can make you feel isolated, unloved, and alone, even though you’re in the same house.
This emotional gap might be a reason for him being ashamed of you.
These are ten signs that your husband could be feeling ashamed of you.
Keep in mind that these signs aren’t definite proof, but they do show that something might be amiss in your marriage.
Your job is to figure out what’s causing these feelings.
If you do find out that he’s acting this way because he’s embarrassed by you, don’t lose hope.
Talk things through and work on the issues together.
Where there’s a desire to make things better, there’s always a path forward.