We live in a world where men’s “strength” has been so overemphasized that they are not allowed to be vocal about things they should be vocal about.
I put “strength” in quotes, not because I think it’s a bad thing, but because I also know how damaging it can be for someone to be shamed for simply vocalizing how they feel.
Now, I understand that not everything needs to be said.
I think maturity and wisdom will teach us that some things are better left unsaid.
However, I believe there are certain things women get away with that men don’t.
And the saddest part is that even they themselves have come to believe it, that they mock each other for showing any form of emotions that’s not accepted by the men-folk.
I remember this particular guy who tweeted about cutting off his friends for not checking on him after he had his surgery.
According to him, he realized they were not his real friends because, even after letting them know how he felt, they still didn’t think it was a problem.
I read that thinking, well, that’s the typical man for you; I’m sure they thought he was even expecting too much by wanting to be checked on.
Still, nothing prepared me for the mockery this man had to face from other men who indeed felt he was asking for too much.
Believe it or not, the major consensus from men was that he was acting like a woman, and men didn’t care about things like that.
I think it’s a sad way to live.
Anyway, that said, because men don’t feel free to speak, they are sure they would never confess to a woman that a woman wouldn’t mind admitting to.
Let’s take a look at those things.
8 Things Most Men Will Never Confess to a Woman
1. His insecurity
Most men walk around acting confident, but deep down, they battle insecurities they’ll never admit to.
Sometimes, it’s about their looks.
Other times, it’s their finances or how they measure up to other men.
It particularly happens with the latter because men might be able to stand looking unattractive, but they can’t stand being poor or lacking in comparison to other men.
They fear being seen as weak or less masculine, so they cover it up with jokes or silence.
But make no mistake; he notices his flaws just like you do.
He won’t tell you because he doesn’t want to lose your respect or seem like he doesn’t have it all together.
2. His weaknesses or fears
I think things are not as intense now, but I grew up in a time when men were being told they had to be strong all the time.
You know, that time when a man was basically told crying was a taboo or that he had to man up, even when he was feeling sad.
So, of course, he grew up thinking admitting fear is automatically admitting to being a failure.
That means a man might worry about losing his job, not being good enough, or letting his family down, but he’ll never say it out loud.
Instead, he’ll bottle it up, pretending everything is fine.
But the truth is that he has real fears that pride keeps him from talking about.
You might think it’s just that he doesn’t trust you.
That’s not always the case, though; he’s just been trained to believe vulnerability makes him less of a man.
3. He doesn’t like some things about you
Even when a man loves a woman deeply, there are things he doesn’t like about her, but he’ll rarely say so.
For instance, he may not like the way you talk when you’re upset, or how long it takes you to get ready.
But he will keep quiet because he doesn’t want to hurt your feelings or start an argument.
Now, let me shock you, as that’s even mild; sometimes, a man might not find certain parts of your body attractive even though he loves you.
But you will never hear it from his mouth.
Because aside from the fact that it is something he knows saying will hurt you, he loves you, so it might not matter to him in the grand scheme of things.
So, he will never voice it out.
In this case, it is not really about men being scared to talk.
This is one of those instances where a man is trying to keep the peace.
He knows relationships take compromise, and he cherishes peace more than the consequences of being honest.
4. His love for chick flicks and/or reality drama
Have you ever seen those social media videos where men pretend not to care about a chick flick or reality TV show, but you can clearly see them enjoying or even following the drama?
That’s how many men behave; they secretly enjoy chick flicks and reality TV but would never admit it.
They’ll pretend they’re only watching because you have it on, but deep down, they’re equally invested in the drama.
He might even have opinions about who’s right or wrong on Love Is Blind or which couple should end up together in The Notebook.
Still, he’ll roll his eyes and act uninterested because society tells him those shows aren’t “manly.”
5. He is sometimes clueless
Men like to look like they have everything figured out, but half the time, they’re also guessing, just like you are.
He might act like he knows what you’re feeling, what you want for your birthday, or how to fix something around the house, but he often doesn’t
Besides the pride of not acting clueless in your presence, he also fears looking incompetent because he wants to impress you.
So instead of admitting confusion, he’ll fumble through it.
And honestly, sometimes he’s just hoping you’ll give him a hint, so he can save himself the trouble of asking and confessing his cluelessness.
6. He wants to talk too
Men like to act like they don’t need to talk about their feelings, but they do.
They crave a safe space where they can be honest about how they feel without judgment.
Even though a man might not start the conversation, he also has things to say.
He also wants to tell you about his day, his frustrations, or his dreams.
Unfortunately, because of how he’s been raised, he doesn’t know how to open up without feeling exposed.
So instead, he will let you do all the talking and hide behind the idea that men don’t talk too much.
But trust me, he’s hoping you’ll ask or encourage him to talk.
Reminds me of my friend’s husband, who used to be very quiet – I met him first and introduced them.
Now, he amazes me how much he talks when I am around them.
According to my friend, she “opened” his mouth by always asking him open-ended questions and encouraging him to talk.
If she hadn’t done that, we wouldn’t have known we could get a talker out of him.
That’s how many men are; they act quiet until they are nudged or when they feel safe enough to.
7. He wants someone to compliment him
Men pretend compliments don’t matter to them when they do.
They also like to be told they look good, smell nice, or that they did something right.
Now, I admit that they may not fish for praise the way women do, but deep down, it means a lot when it comes.
A simple “you look handsome today” can boost his confidence more than he’ll ever admit.
Yet, he’ll act like he doesn’t care, brushing it off as trivial.
But trust me when I say it thrills him to no end.
8. He is not a sex god
Many men act like they know exactly what they’re doing in bed or that they are good in bed, but the truth is that they’re often clueless.
They want to please you, but they also fear being judged.
So instead of admitting their uncertainty, they will perform with confidence, hoping it works.
I mean, it’s not really their fault; society tells them that a real man is always skilled and ready, so that puts pressure on them to live up to that image.
But you must understand that he’s human, too, so he gets nervous, unsure, and sometimes needs reassurance, too.
Unfortunately, you’re likely never to hear him admit it.