In a good and healthy relationship, you are expected to make sacrifices. If you are not ready to make sacrifices, you are not ready to be in a relationship.
This is because you are getting together with someone from a different background with his own beliefs, ideologies and personality and to walk with that person, you both have to make sacrifices.
You have to drop some of yours and pick his and he has to do the same. However, there are certain things you should never negotiate in a relationship.
Men usually have healthy self-esteem when it comes to relationships; most of them don’t settle for less than they deserve or want out of a relationship. But women are usually so pressured to be in relationships and get married that we feel the need to settle.
But if you want to live a full life, you should never negotiate certain things in a relationship. This article will explain those things a woman should never negotiate in a relationship.
1. Your Family And Friends
A man that loves you will love your friends and family as well.
Now, you might have a friend or family member who is difficult to love but he will make an effort to love them because they are in your life.
If a man is asking you to sacrifice your family and friends for him or if he is trying to keep you from them, whether subtly or directly, he doesn’t love you.
You should never negotiate your friends and family; these people have always been there for you and always will be. You should love his people and he should do the same for you.
2. Your Core Values
You have certain core values and principles as you grow up; might be religious, social or moral and these core values should never be compromised.
In the first place, these core values should guide the kind of person you date.
You shouldn’t start a relationship with someone and then try to make them accept your values.
From the start, do you align in certain core values? If you don’t, then you have no business being together.
3. Your Dreams And Goals
One of the things a woman should never negotiate in a relationship is her vision for her life.
Your dreams and goals should be important to you always. You shouldn’t even compromise your dreams and goals in a marriage, not to mention, a relationship.
You should be with a man who cheers you on; a man that you can consider your biggest fan or cheerleader, not a man that wants to stifle you.
A man that loves you will seek to make sure your dreams and goals align with his and not seek to kill them.
4. Your Love Language
We all have a love language or two.
A love language is a way we understand love; the way we want to be loved. Now, it is possible for your partner not to know your love language or even you might not have identified it.
You can take a test to determine your love language or read the book to know more about it. If you have identified your love language and communicated it to your partner, you should not negotiate it. The man who loves you will act accordingly.
5. The Way You Want To Be Treated
Another thing you should never negotiate in a relationship is how you want to be treated in the relationship.
People will always treat us the way we let them treat us. If you insist on being treated right, if he loves you, he will align.
But if you accept the wrong treatment, it will continue. Communicate what you expect in a relationship and don’t expect anything else.
Of course, you should be realistic and don’t have unrealistic standards but if you are sure you don’t, then don’t settle.
6. Yourself (What Makes You Unique)
Another thing a woman should never negotiate in a relationship is who she is.
A man who loves you will not be seeking to change you; he will love everything about you, even your quirks and idiosyncrasies.
Will he want you to work on your flaws and be better? Sure. But not only will he not frustrate you into it, but he will also only be interested in making sure you are the best version of yourself and not someone else.
In conclusion, love doesn’t ask us to settle for less than what we deserve; don’t settle for less than you should in your relationship.