It might sound unrealistic, but I want my husband to always think about me.
I don’t mind a little daydream here and there when he is at work or hanging out with his friends, waiting for the time we will be together again.
I’m willing to bet you want the same thing.
Here’s the thing, though: your husband probably loves you.
But loving you and thinking about you often are two different things.
Now, I’m not one to put a condition on love, even though, realistically, human love is largely conditional.
I’m sure you agree with me that even when someone is in love with you, there are certain things you can do to keep the flame burning or extinguish it, as the case may be.
That’s what we are talking about here.
If you want to ensure your man thinks about you always, follow me as we discuss the things wives do to make their men think about them.
Men Always Think About Wives Who Do These 8 Things
1. Respect Them
For some reason, respect is a big deal for men.
You could say it is due to societal constructs, and I would agree.
But the reason is inconsequential in this context; what matters is that they love it.
It could be a little about ego, but I know that for a good man, it’s mostly about feeling valued.
It’s how many of them interpret love.
For many of them, they only believe you love them when you respect them.
When a man feels respected by his wife, he walks taller and loves her deeper.
I know respect is sometimes misconstrued in some places to mean being subservient, but what it really means is to speak to him with kindness, honor his efforts, and not belittle him in private or public.
If you give this to your man, he’ll still be replaying how you made him feel long after you’ve forgotten the moment.
That’s because that kind of respect is unforgettable.
2. Appreciate Them
I find that one thing many of us struggle with is appreciating the people in our lives who help make our lives a little easier.
When your friend helps you oil your car or cook you a meal, you are likely to be very appreciative.
But when it’s done by your spouse, you are likely not to be as appreciative because you feel it’s one of their duties.
You may not mean it that way, but that’s still being entitled.
If you want your man to think about you, you need to be intentional about appreciating him.
Men crave appreciation more than they let on.
When a wife notices the little things he does for her, it means the world to him.
If your man makes your life easier by fixing something around the house, being consistent with work, or just being present, let him know you appreciate it.
Even a simple “thank you” or “I see what you’re doing” goes a long way.
It shows your man that you see him, and it makes him feel like a hero.
And ultimately, it keeps you in his thoughts, because gratitude is a love language that never gets old.
3. Trust Them
I recently came across a post on Twitter/X where a lady said her husband conducted a DNA test on their children, and she was very upset, because that obviously meant he doesn’t trust her.
Many men in the comment section tried to rationalize his thinking that it wasn’t about her, but about prevailing stories of paternity fraud.
I replied to some of them and asked them to put themselves in her shoes and imagine their wives suspecting them of something they are innocent of, because of prevailing stories.
Guess what? They all went mute.
I say that to say that nobody enjoys being on the receiving end of distrust.
We might dish it out and even have a reason for it, but at the core of it, we all want to be trusted by our significant other.
Heck, even guilty people want to be trusted, not to mention when you are innocent.
Therefore, your husband wants you to trust him.
He doesn’t want to have to explain every phone call or every place he goes, just because you doubt his character.
That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be accountable to each other, but that you don’t watch his every action like a hawk because you want to catch him in the act.
Additionally, trust goes beyond just believing he won’t cheat.
Men also want to be trusted for their judgment, intentions, and ability to handle life.
They don’t want to feel smothered or second-guessed at every turn.
When a wife gives her husband space to lead and trusts him to make the right call, even if he sometimes messes up, it makes him feel even more bonded to her.
A man would hardly forget a woman who believed in him even when he doubted himself.
4. Support Them
Every man wants his wife to be his biggest cheerleader.
He wants to know she is right there beside him, cheering him on as he starts a business, navigates a tough season at work, or just chases personal growth.
Your support matters a lot to your man; it makes him feel like you can conquer the world.
The problem many women face is that they mistake support for nagging or trying to fix their man.
Yes, you might have done it differently.
Yes, your way might even arguably be better.
But just being there and trusting his decisions is a better way to support him.
You don’t have to force your advice on him, just encourage him when he’s tired and remind him of who he is when he forgets.
That kind of emotional support will always stick with him, even long after the storm has passed.
5. Show Them Love and Affection
I know we sometimes think men are robots who are devoid of emotions, but that couldn’t be further from the truth.
They may act tough and all that, but they want love and affection too.
Men also need a warm hug after a hard day, they want spontaneous kisses, and they cherish cuddles during a movie.
He may not ask for it, but when you offer it nonetheless, it makes him feel you are his safe space.
And trust me, that kind of constant display of love and affection doesn’t fade from his memory.
He will always want to be around you because you make him feel at peace.
When the world is stressful, especially, he will always want to run home because you are his safety from the day-to-day challenges of life.
6. Make Them Laugh
Laughter is often underrated, but it is quite powerful.
I am sure you have heard the saying, “laughter is the best medicine.”
I can attest that this is true because for that moment, you forget all your problems and sorrows.
Life is serious enough; you have bills, responsibilities, and pressure, so we need to deliberately find ways to lighten up.
That’s why men cherish when their woman can laugh with them, tease them playfully, share inside jokes, and not take everything too seriously.
If you give him that happiness and joy, he will stay glued to you, and he will always think about you.
7. Communicate Clearly and Honestly
I recently asked my male friends what they appreciate most in women, and two of them mentioned women who speak their mind and don’t expect them to read it.
Have you ever been in a situation where you are frustrated that your husband doesn’t know what you want, and you start growing resentful, while he is frustrated because he doesn’t know what’s wrong?
Have you considered that it might be easier to just tell him?
I’m a woman myself, so I understand that it’s romantic when your man just gets it without you saying a word, and that some things lose their romantic value when you have to spell it out.
However, I also think it is unrealistic to expect someone to know everything you want without being told.
In fact, it is unfair to them.
As you grow in marriage with a proper communication line, trust me that your husband will start to read you better.
However, in the early years, you will need to communicate your needs if you don’t want to frustrate your partner and strain your marriage.
And that’s why men appreciate a wife who can say what she feels, needs, or expects, without being hurtful.
Such a woman is special to them because she saves them from a lot of unnecessary tension.
8. Interdependence
A man respects a woman who knows how to lean on him but also stands tall on her own.
They don’t want clinginess, whereby you rely on them for everything, but they also don’t want you to be overly distant, whereby they don’t feel needed at all.
I know this sounds like a lot, but just stay somewhere in the middle and you will be fine.
Men love and respect women who are ready to work and build with them, but who can still maintain a sense of self-identity.
They don’t want to be your whole world, but they also want to know they matter to you.
If you are able to maintain that healthy balance, you will become unforgettable to your husband.