I want love.
I believe you want love.
We all want love.
At the core of it all, we are emotional beings and it is important for us to find a special connection with another human being, in any capacity.
One of these capacities is in attracting the partner of your dreams.
Some people are lucky enough to attract the partner of their dreams easily and some, unfortunately, aren’t.
What’s the difference between those who do and those who don’t? Information.
So, how do you attract the partner of your dreams?
HOW TO ATTRACT THE PARTNER OF YOUR DREAMS
1.List down what you need in a partner
There are so many qualities that we all tend to want in a partner and if we are not careful, we may major on the minor and minor on the major.
While it is okay to want certain qualities, you should put them in order of priority. For instance, I heard of three categories of qualities from an influencer couple I follow on YouTube; must-have, should-have and wish-list.
Must-have are qualities that are important that you would want your partner to have because they are actually important, should-have are qualities that you would want your partner to have but they do not really have any bearing on the success of the relationship while the wish-list should contain qualities that are totally superficial like looks and financial status.
Now, if you make the mistake of putting your wish-list as your must-have, you might be building the wrong foundation for your relationship.
While no one can help you categorise the qualities you want in a partner, you should be able to figure out what is important and what is not.
The reason it is important to have a list is so you can know exactly what you are looking for and quickly identify it when you see it.
2. Be the person the partner of your dreams
There is something called the law of attraction and like minds attract. Many people believe that opposites attract but that is not generally true; it is a myth.
There is something about the universe that energies that are similar are attracted to each other. Now, this doesn’t mean that you are your partner will be completely similar with no differences, it means that you are likely to have similar core values and belief system.
The implication of this is that if there is anything in your life that you do not want in a partner, this might be a good time to change it or you are likely to find it in the people who come around you.
3. Stay positive and grateful
I remember stumbling on a post on one of the Facebook groups I followed and the post was basically asking singles to talk about what they enjoy about being single.
And a good number of the comments were people talking about how miserable they are and how they hate being single.
To say I was shocked is putting it lightly. Do you mean to tell me there is absolutely nothing you enjoy about your present status? Even the freedom?
I don’t think to talk about certain great things that come with being single means you don’t want to be in a relationship; it just means you are enjoying the present while looking forward to the future.
It is important to be positive and be grateful for what you have, so you can attract what you want.
The truth is that you are likely to attract the partner of your dreams while being positive and being grateful for the present than being miserable about it.
4. Live
Very similar to the point above, I enjoin you to live. Don’t just sit down somewhere and stop living because you are single.
Further your education;
Get that job;
Relocate to the city;
Travel;
Join that community;
Go through your bucket list.
Just live and your partner will find you while you are busy actually living.
5. Position yourself in the dating world
There’s no way you’re going to attract your dream partner if you keep making yourself invisible.
You’ve got to find a way to put yourself out there so that you can be seen.
Where are you likely to find your dream man or woman? In a school, religious gathering, at work, on the street, at a party, or even in online groups?
If you don’t go to where you’ll meet like minds, you’ll be doing yourself a great disservice.
If you want to quit being single, you have to be ready to mingle.
Ask yourself if you’re making yourself visible enough online and offline to be seen by prospective partners.
If your answer is no, then you need to work on your social life. Go where you’re likely to attract your dream partner. Love can find you anywhere.
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