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14 Things Guys Do When They Start Getting Serious in a Relationship

14 Things Guys Do When They Start Getting Serious in a Relationship

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If you’re in a new relationship or have been dating someone for a while, you may be wondering if your guy is getting serious about you.

There are some signs that he might be ready to take the next step in your relationship and eventually commit

Here are 14 things guys do when they start getting serious:

14 Things Guys Do When They Start Getting Serious in a Relationship

1. He Introduces You to His Friends and Family

One of the most telling signs that a guy is getting serious about you is whether he introduces you to his friends and family.

If he wants you to meet the people who are important to him, it’s likely because he sees you as being important to him as well.

A guy that wants something temporary with you will not introduce you to the important people in his life.

Also, men only take who they’re certain they have a future with to their friends and family.

Once you cross that line, you can be sure he is serious about you.


2. He Will Want To See You Unconditionally

A man who truly loves you will want to be with you no matter what.

He won’t care if you’re wearing sweatpants or if your hair is in a messy bun.

He will still want to spend time with you and talk to you about anything and everything.

He is not up for just the days you’re at your optimal state, rather he is in for every ride of the way.

On the day cramps are upon you, in mood swings, when your hair is rough, with breakouts and when you’re bloated, he is right there to walk through it all with you.

Such a man is showing you he is not just there for the good times, he is with you and for you.

If he starts acting differently after one bad day, then he might not be the right guy for you after all.


3. He Opens Up to You Emotionally

Any man that bares himself to you emotionally is totally comfortable with you in his vulnerable state is sure serious about you.

He has nothing to hold back from you even at his weakest.

This means he trusts you enough to share his thoughts and feelings with you and isn’t afraid of being at your mercy for you to take care of him.

This is not him being weak, but about him being trusting enough to leave himself in totality to you.

He is not in for the games but surely takes you more seriously than you could have ever imagined.



4. He Shares His Thoughts and Feelings with You

Any man that cares to share his thought process on projects and even his feelings about the subject takes you seriously.

His being comfortable enough to share all of these moments with you means he values your input in the processes that form his life.

Also, it shows that you’re important in the affairs that affect him and would not trade your place in his life.

You matter to him and your opinion will go in to affect the final decisions he eventually makes.



5. He Makes an Effort to Spend Time with You

If a guy is getting serious about you, he’ll want to spend as much time with you as possible.

This doesn’t mean he doesn’t have a life outside of you.

It simply means he treasures the moments you share together and will rather give his time to you.

Funny thing is that there might be no activities engaged in when you’re together but just you two enjoying each other’s company.

He’ll also be interested in spending time with you outside of the bedroom and will want to do things like go on dates or take walks together.

He strikes a balance with you every time you’re together and it takes a man that is serious and intentional about you to do this.



6. He Opens Up About His Past

Things Guys Do When They Start Getting Serious in a Relationship

A man that is serious about you will tell you all you need to know about his past without you having to find out on your own.

He makes his life an open book and you know the pages and what to expect.

You won’t get dramatic surprises in the event that there are dramatic exes and family members.

Once a man gets to this stage with you, he is ready to make things permanent with you.


7. He Makes Future Plans

When your man starts making future plans and he starts involving you in them, be assured that he is in for the long term.

It can start from a weekend plan to a vacation.

If he’s including you in his future plans, it’s a good sign that he wants you to be a part of his life for years to come.

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8. He Talks About Your Future Together

In addition to making future plans, another sign that a guy is getting serious about you is if he talks about your future together.

This could be anything from wanting to buy a house together one day to wanting to start a family together.

Either way, if he’s talking about your future together, it’s usually because he sees you as being in his life for the long run.


9. He Gets Jealous

While jealousy isn’t always a sign of love, it can be in some cases.

If your man gets jealous when you talk to other guys or even when other guys look at you, it could be because he’s starting to fall for you and doesn’t want anyone else to swoop in and steal you away.

Of course, jealousy can also just be a sign of insecurity, so take this one with a grain of salt and look at the other signs on this list before drawing any conclusions.


10. He Defends You

Another sign that a guy is getting serious about you is if he starts to defend you – even when you’re not around.

You are at peace that no human can thrash talk about you or spill some dirt on your name and person with your man around.

He is there to save the day in your absence or presence.

If he’s always quick to jump to your defense or has your back no matter what, it’s likely because he cares about you and doesn’t want anyone saying anything negative about you.


11. He Asks You Out on Dates

Things Guys Do When They Start Getting Serious in a Relationship

If a guy is falling for you and getting serious, he will ask you out on dates.

He will want to spend time with you away from school or work and just enjoy each other’s company.

He will want to be able to tell people that he has a girlfriend and show her off at every opportunity.

He doesn’t restrict your meeting indoors alone.

He is ready to show you off at every moment he has with you. 



12. He Asks You To Be His Girlfriend (Or Maybe Even His Wife)

If a guy is falling for you and getting serious, he will ask you to be his girlfriend.

He will want to make sure that you are officially part of his life and that the relationship is going in the right direction.

And if you’re already officially dating, he may take it further by asking you to be his wife by proposing that you be his wife.



13. He Listens To You

Things Guys Do When They Start Getting Serious in a Relationship

If a guy is falling for you and getting serious, he will listen to what you have to say and make sure that he understands where you are coming from.

Whenever there is an issue, he will make sure he hears you out.

He listens to you and not just for him to reply to you but to understand you.

He will want to know what your thoughts are on things so that he can understand how they relate to him as well.


14. He Respects Your Boundaries

If a guy is falling for you and getting serious, he will respect your boundaries.

He will not try to push you into doing things that you are not comfortable with.

The only way that he will push is if he thinks that it is important for your safety or well-being.


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These are just a few of the many signs that a guy may be getting serious about you.

If you’re seeing several of these signs in your own relationship, it’s a good indication that he’s falling for you and that things are getting serious between the two of you.

It is up to you to reciprocate his actions and match the energy you’re met with.