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What Does It Mean When a Guy Kisses You First?

What Does It Mean When a Guy Kisses You First?

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Is there a reason why people often make a special, beautiful memory of their first kiss?

I think a first kiss is always a special occasion for everyone who has shared a connection with another. 

That kiss usually marks the beginning of something for them both – many times, the beginning of something beautiful. 

Truth is, there’s no rule that states what gender should first make the kiss move.

But when a man takes the bull by the horns and decides to give the first kiss, there’s always a question in the woman’s mind. 

What may this kiss mean? 

Or rather, why did he decide to kiss me now?

And because most times, women are unable to ask men this question, we have decided to put up this article that answers the question and provides a level of clarity. 

What Does It Mean When a Guy Kisses You First?

1. Attraction and Interest

What Does It Mean When a Guy Kisses You First?

I’m not sure men exactly go about kissing random women here and there. 

I don’t also think they kiss all their female friends.

Kissing is an expression of physical intimacy, and it is often shared among people who are strongly attracted to each other. 

Among many other reasons a man may decide to take the first move to kiss a woman, attraction is one of the most popular.

When a man has romantic interests in a woman and has access to her personal space, one of the first physical gestures he makes is kissing her. 

He kisses her to let her know that he is attracted to her and wants to get intimate with her. 

The attraction may not be deeply rooted, but there is surely a desire for physical intimacy and the need to explore romance. 

2. Confidence and Assertiveness

What Does It Mean When a Guy Kisses You First?

It takes confidence for a man to wield enough boldness to kiss a woman with whom he’s never been intimate. 

It is always difficult to tell what will follow that bold move. 

Someone once said that the worst she can say is “no.”

But trust me, there are things that are way worse and demeaning than just a “no,” and those things can happen to a man when he goes to kiss a woman without prior notice. 

Kissing a woman first is also a sign of an assertive man. 

Someone who knows what he wants and goes for what he wants. 

3. Emotional Connection

What Does It Mean When a Guy Kisses You First?

There’s something emotional connection does to people

It lets them let down their guards and take risks with the person with whom they’re deeply connected with. 

It is not an everyday thing for men to have someone whom they bond with emotionally. 

Someone with whom they can share their vulnerability. 

And when they begin to feel like they want to take that connection to a deeper, more intimate level, they do not think twice before they express this need with a kiss. 

He has taken the woman into consideration and finds that he can trust her enough to share something deeper with her. 

So, he makes the move to mark the beginning of their shared intimacy. 

4. Testing the Waters

What Does It Mean When a Guy Kisses You First?

Many times, to know how a person will react to a particular thing, people tend to test them with a bit of it. 

Especially if they want to get an honest reaction from them.

If you walk up to a person and ask them, “How would you react if a random person slapped you on the road?”

They will tell you what they want you to know. 

And it may not be the exact way they’ll react.

But if you walked up to them and stepped on them deliberately, you would see their actual reaction to a thing like that. 

So yeah, a man may decide to kiss you first and randomly to see if you are comfortable with physical intimacy. 

Or if you’d like to share it with him. 

When he kisses you, your reaction tells him, “No, you can’t do that.”

Or “don’t stop. I like it.”

And it will be kind of awkward if he asks you how you’ll react if he kisses you. 

So rather than ask, he’ll just kiss you and get the reaction firsthand.


5. Expression of Affection

What Does It Mean When a Guy Kisses You First?

Aside from being an indicator of interest, kisses can also be used to express affection. 

There are times when people get so overwhelmed with emotions that they don’t know the right words to express how they feel. 

During these times, people often turn to body language and gestures to help them express their emotions. 

A first kiss can simply be an expression of affection and fondness from a man who is unable to express himself verbally

And what is funny is the fact that it may not even be anything deep.

You know, the kiss may not indicate the need for a committed or long-term relationship.

Just something that happens at the spur of the moment following an overwhelming feeling of affection. 

6. Establishing Dominance or Control

What Does It Mean When a Guy Kisses You First?

Funny how men will go to any length to prove a fact that doesn’t need any proving. 

Aside from some people with little understanding who think that women and men can be the same, there is nobody who is dragging masculinity with men. 

You are a man, and every woman you meet clearly knows that.

But some men are not just satisfied with being men, they prefer to be called “alpha males”

These are the ones who go around feeling like they need to put a foot down and raise their shoulders high to show that they are the ones in charge. 

And some of these ‘Alpha males’ carry their domineering behavior along with them to their relationships.

Imagine kissing a woman first just because you want to prove that you own her and to be able to say you’re the one who made the first intimate move between you both. 

It doesn’t make any real sense, but it is the reason some men kiss a woman first. 


7. Seeking Validation

What Does It Mean When a Guy Kisses You First?

A few days ago, I was watching a movie where a younger teenage boy was challenging the seniority of an older teenage boy based on the fact that he had never been to a party, consumed alcohol, or been with a woman. 

It was a movie, but many men face this kind of pressure from their friends on a daily basis. 

Sometimes, they are sidelined and called names like ‘chicken’, etc., just to make them feel like they are not man enough or that they are missing out on something. 

This kind of man may decide to find a woman and pin her down with a kiss just to prove to his guys that he is man enough and can belong among his peers. 


8. Expression of Commitment

What Does It Mean When a Guy Kisses You First?

Every relationship usually begins with the liking stage, then the talking stage.

At the talking stage, the two parties try to find out more about themselves and decide whether or not they can form a long-term committee together.

During this time, physical intimacy is usually kept at a minimal level while they try to build a deep emotional connection. 

However, when the man is ready to get on with the real stuff, he may start off with a kiss. 

That kiss says, “Hey girl, I really like you, and I want to walk this journey of love with you if you want the same.”


Whatever the reason your man decided to lean in and plant that kiss, it is still left to you to decide whether or not you want to keep it going. 

Yes, kisses are soft and really calming, but you must be able to make decisions based on what is good for you and not based on how you feel during the kiss.