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12 Simple Ways to Be a Better And Happier Wife In Your Marriage

12 Simple Ways to Be a Better And Happier Wife In Your Marriage

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Have you ever wondered if you are enough for your husband?

Even if you have never thought of that, how about thinking of how to improve things in your marriage?

No marriage is perfect, and that is why there is always room for improvement.

As a wife who wants to be progressive in her marriage, I am sure you will agree there are points where you need to work on.

You might not even know these points, but that’s why I am here to show you simple ways to be a better wife to your husband.

12 Simple Ways to Be a Better And Happier Wife In Your Marriage

1. Communicate Openly and Honestly

Ways to Be a Better And Happier Wife In Your Marriage

Communication is everything in any healthy relationship.

There are times when emotions get the best of us as women, and we might not communicate properly.

Your husband is not a mind reader psychic or Voodoo man so you need to talk to him. 

Talking is not the same thing as dropping hints. 

He is not in some form of ultimate search or game arcade. 

You need to communicate your feelings, needs, and desires to help him build trust and intimacy in your marriage. 

Having that heart-to-heart conversation with him will help him help you be a better person. 

It’s not all about asking him about his regular responsibilities or duties he carries out at home. 

It is about connecting with him.


2. Show Appreciation

Ways to Be a Better And Happier Wife In Your Marriage

Nothing kills a responsible man faster than an unappreciative wife

Everyone loves to feel appreciated.

Make it a habit to thank your husband for the little things he does.

It really will not cost you anything to hug him and thank him for his efforts.

Whether it’s taking out the trash, cooking dinner, or simply being there for you, let him know you notice and value those gestures.

A simple “thank you” can go a long way in making him feel loved and respected.

Men thrive better in homes where the wife in that home is appreciative of their efforts.

When you learn how to be more appreciative of him, it will make him do more.

When was the last time you genuinely thanked your husband for something he did? 


3. Be Supportive

Ways to Be a Better And Happier Wife In Your Marriage

In all of your dealings, you should never be an unsupportive wife. 

The economy is harsh already and you should not add to the harshness of the reality by being mean to your husband. 

Being supportive can be all that will make a difference in his life and career.

Encourage your husband in his endeavors, be it career goals, personal projects, or hobbies. 

Show interest in his passions and cheer him on.

Being his biggest fan will not only boost his confidence but also strengthen your bond.

How do you show support for your husband’s dreams and ambitions?

I am not talking about the support you give him because it favors your vanity.


4. Spend Quality Time Together

Ways to Be a Better And Happier Wife In Your Marriage

In the hustle and bustle of everyday life, it’s easy to lose sight of spending quality time together.

I’m of the opinion that dating should continue in marriage.

It will really give you more quality time in your marriage

Make it a priority to have date nights, even if it’s just watching a movie at home or going for a walk. 

Just make sure you do something fun with your partner.

It will help you get closer and it will cut out a lot of emotional tension build-ups.

Out of that tight schedule try to squeeze out that time for just the two of you.

The key is to focus on each other and enjoy the moment without distractions.

What was the last fun activity you did together as a couple? 

And no, binge-watching Netflix doesn’t qualify as a date!


5. Listen Actively

Ways to Be a Better And Happier Wife In Your Marriage

Listening is an art, and active listening is a superpower.

When your husband talks, give him your full attention.

Put away your phone, make eye contact, and really listen to what he’s saying.

Sometimes, all he needs is a sounding board, not someone to fix his problems.

You cannot be that sounding board when you’re not fully listening to him.

How do you even process what he is saying when half of your attention is on Instagram, scrolling endlessly?

How well do you listen to your husband when he shares his thoughts and feelings? 

Are you listening for the sake of listening or you’re really listening to him?


6. Be Affectionate

Ways to Be a Better And Happier Wife In Your Marriage

Physical touch is a powerful way to express love.

It necessarily does not have to end with you rumpling the sheets.

There are more ways to show intimacy physically beyond bedmatics.

Holding hands is one of those ways.

Show your husband love by making sure your touch lingers when you come in contact with him.

Hug him randomly and give him a peck while at it.

These small acts of affection can help maintain intimacy and keep the spark alive in your marriage. 

How often do you show physical affection to your husband?

 And no, asking him to open a jar doesn’t count as a physical touch.


7. Respect His Space

Everyone needs some alone time, and that includes your husband.

Recently, my husband has been having some personal time with himself, trying to navigate some issues personally.

I respected the fact that he needed that time alone.

The former me would have thought he was locking me out of his space.

But I recently acknowledged that I need to respect his need for space, and it has no negative effect on our marriage.

In fact, that little space actually brought us closer.

Do you respect your husband’s need for personal space?

Or do you give him the “evil eye” when he wants to hang out with his buddies?


8. Keep the Romance Alive

Signs He's Committed to You and Only You

Just because you’re married doesn’t mean the romance should fade.

Surprise your husband with little gestures of love, leave a sweet note in his lunchbox, plan a surprise date, or simply tell him how much you love him.

Men love these gestures, too.

You don’t have to be a boring wife around him.

Keeping the romance alive keeps your relationship exciting and vibrant.

When was the last time you did something romantic for your husband? 

And no, sharing your last French fry doesn’t count as romance, sister!


9. Work on Yourself

Being a better wife also means being the best version of yourself.

You can’t give what you do not have.

If you’re not stable, you can’t give stability.

If you’re not happy, you can’t give happiness.

Take care of your physical, emotional, and mental well-being.

Pursue your interests, set personal goals, and continue to grow as an individual.

A happy and fulfilled you will contribute positively to your marriage.

What are you doing to improve yourself and your well-being? 


10. Handle Conflicts Gracefully

Ways to Be a Better And Happier Wife In Your Marriage

Arguments are inevitable in any relationship, but it’s how you handle them that matters.

Aim to resolve conflicts with grace and understanding.

You cannot take an armory to a gunfight and expect to be received with grace.

When issues arise, tackle the issue and not your husband.

Face the issue head-on and objectively solve it.

Avoid blaming, name-calling, and bringing up past issues.

Focus on finding solutions and reach a compromise where necessary.

Remember, it’s you and your husband against the problem, not each other.

How do you typically handle conflicts in your marriage?

And by handle, I mean something other than giving him the silent treatment until he apologizes.

Think about this and how you can improve your marriage.


11. Be Patient and Understanding

Marriage is a journey, and patience is the key driver of that journey.

Understand that both you and your husband are learning and growing together. 

You come from different backgrounds and spheres of life, and as such, you must understand each other for who you are.

Be patient with his flaws and mistakes, just as you hope he is with yours.

Show compassion and empathy, especially during tough times.

You do not have to remind him of his mistakes at every opportunity you get.

This doesn’t make you a better woman for him.

It just makes you an archive of his mistakes, which will make him careful around you.

Don’t rub his shortcomings in his face.

Extend some grace to him and watch him evolve into the man of your dreams.


12. Celebrate Milestones and Achievements

Ways to Be a Better And Happier Wife In Your Marriage

Don’t wait for a big reason like your wedding anniversary before you celebrate with your husband.

Celebrate your journey together by acknowledging and celebrating milestones and achievements.

Whether it’s a work promotion or simply making it through a challenging week, take the time to celebrate together.

Take him out on a date.

Or, better yet, get the children to write about how wonderful Daddy is, and don’t forget to add yours.

These moments of joy and recognition can strengthen your bond and create lasting memories.

How do you celebrate milestones and achievements in your marriage? 

And no, just saying “Good job” and going back to your phone doesn’t count!


Cherish Your Journey Together

Marriage is a beautiful and evolving journey.

It’s about growing together, supporting each other, and finding joy in the little moments.

It’s the small, consistent efforts that make a big difference, remember that!

So, go ahead and show your husband just how much you love and appreciate him.

After all, a happy marriage is built on love, respect, and a whole lot of laughter.