I watched a vox pop where they asked a man what it would take for him to stay loyal to a woman.
He said, ” If a woman is able to make fresh meals for me three times a day—nothing refrigerated—all farm fresh, thrice a day, I’ll be loyal to her all the days of my life.”
It had to be one of the most amazing conditions I’d ever heard or seen for loyalty.
My first question is, should loyalty between couples be conditional?
Should a man say “my woman must do this or that to gain my loyalty.”
Or should it just come as part of the default relationship package?
Whether conditional or unconditional, no relationship can stand where there is no loyalty.
Loyalty says “I am committed to you. I am yours and you are mine.”
People have different ways of demonstrating their loyalty to their partners.
So it is always important for each part to know how the other expresses loyalty.
This article lists out ways through which men often show loyalty to their partners.
7 Ways Men Prove Loyalty to Their Partner
1. Continuous and Honest Communication
One of the most significant ways men show loyalty is through continuous and honest communication.
Like, he is going to tell you everything, every time.
And he is going to be really honest about it.
I’ve studied men for a while, and I discover that even the most reserved of men will talk to you freely and consistently if they are loyal to you.
And this means that they will share their thoughts, feelings, and experiences without holding back.
Outside sharing, he never gets tired of listening to you.
So as much as you are a part of his world, he is also a part of yours.
Even when issues arise in the relationship, you can tell that your man is loyal to you based on the way he addresses the situation, talks about it and seeks practical ways to resolve it.
2. Consistency in Actions and Words
It is only a liar who says one thing and does another.
And how can you be sure that a liar is loyal to you?
They may also be lying about that part, too.
Because a loyal man will consistently align his actions with his words.
If he promises to do something, he follows through till it is done.
He does not adopt a careless attitude towards his commitment, even when he has to sublet it.
He will follow whoever it is handling what to make sure that they deliver at the set time.
And if peradventure he is unable to fulfill his promise because of unforeseen circumstances, he will inform you of the development on time and apologize for it.
This reliability shows you that he is dependable and committed to his relationship with you.
Consistency also means maintaining the same level of care and affection throughout the relationship, not just during the honeymoon phase.
3. Prioritizing the Relationship
Prioritizing the relationship is a very important sign of loyalty especially among men.
So much so that if a man begins to treat his relationship with carelessness, the first thing that comes to mind is that he is caring for another outside.
And because people cannot be committed to two path of the same course at the same time, they will honor one and subconsciously despise the other.
Loyalty in this sense will mean putting the relationship first.
Yes, people are busy trying to make ends meet, but a man who is loyal to his partner will prioritize their time together, making sure that their needs and desires are met.
No matter how tight his schedule is, his woman fits in properly.
Sometimes, he may have to sacrifice his personal time or hobbies to spend quality time with his woman, just to show that what they share is far more important to him than other things.
4. Being Faithful
A loyal man will not cheat.
It is not opened to debate.
You see, we live in a sick and perverted generation where people now believe that it is impossible for men to stay faithful to one partner.
And if I must say this: it is this ideology that has birthed the constant rise in the number of men who are unfaithful to their partners.
According to them, the society says it is impossible, why should they try to make it possible when no one will shame them for having multiple sex partners.
But for now till tomorrow faithfulness is a clear indicator of loyalty.
If a man claims to be loyal to his woman, he stays faithful to her, both physically and emotionally.
He avoids situations that could lead to infidelity and keeps his interactions with others respectful and appropriate.
This faithfulness reassures his woman that she is the only one for him.
5. Supporting Personal Growth
I read a beautiful story of a woman whose man invested in her career while they were courting.
They are married now and she is his greatest support system.
According to him, she is his “asset.”
I see a lot of people advising men to not invest in a woman they are not yet married to because she might leave him when she no longer have to depend on him.
Yes, we have seen situations like this here and there in the world, but why do people only like to use negative situations to make comparisons for themselves?
There are also many situations where men invested in their women and the women became a pillar in the home, supporting the man and giving him stability during rough times.
Why do people not think that this can be their own case?
Well, encouraging and supporting their partners’ personal growth is another way men show loyalty.
The become an active player in their career and education, supporting them in every way they can.
He does this because he is loyal to her and he knows that his investment in her is an investment in the relationship as a whole.
6. Respecting Boundaries
There’s one proverb that comes to mind now: “the wicked flees when no man pursues him.”
I don’t know how to link it to this, but you know how people somehow believe that everyone is lying just because they tell lies?
That’s how it is.
A man who is not loyal to you will always feel like you are not loyal to him and would always want to cross your boundaries to see what you’re doing when he is not there.
It is a very sick state of mind.
Every relationship has boundaries, and respecting these boundaries shows that you are loyal to your partner.
A man who honors his partner’s limits and preferences shows that he values her comfort and autonomy.
This respect creates a sense of safety and trust, two very important elements in any healthy relationship.
7. Defending His Partner
Standing up for your partner in public or private is a strong sign of loyalty.
Truth is, your partner may not always be in the right, but that is often left for you both to settle in the private.
Openly rebuking or standing against your partner leaves them vulnerable to insult and being demeaned by other people.
But when you stand up for them, whether you’re defending them from unfair criticism or standing by their side during tough times, you create a shield for them that goes before them whether you are there or not.
As a loyal man, you will protect your partner’s honor and well-being.
This defense shows that you are committed to the relationship and are willing to support them against challenges of life.
Loyalty is a very important factor in every relationship.
Except it is a fling without commitment.
And it is not just for the man – the both partners must be committed to showing loyalty to each other.
That way, they are able to build something that is firm and can weather the storms.