Is your man behaving in a way that is beginning to show signs you are the side chick and not the main chick?
Is your instinct telling you you are not the main chick?
Do you doubt your instinct?
Are you seeing some signs but need to be sure?
Being in a romantic relationship and believing it will lead to marriage is a beautiful thing.
However, it can also be devastating and depressing to find out that you are not the main chick but the side chick.
It is not uncommon for women to find themselves in a situation where they are the side chick instead of being the main chick in a relationship.
Being a side chick can affect your self-esteem and cause emotional distress.
Being a side chick is not something that is new and it has been going on for years.
Many married men have a side chick despite having a beautiful wife at home, and some guys too have a side chick apart from the main chick that they have promised marriage.
In this article, we are going to talk about 9 signs that you are the side chick and not the main chick. Let’s get started:
9 Obvious Signs You Are the Side Chick And Not The Main Chick
1. You never met his friends or family:
Do you know any of his family members or his close friends?
What is always his reaction whenever you request to meet any of his family members?
Has he ever mentioned his parents or siblings to you?
When a guy is serious about a woman, he wants her to meet his friends and family.
If you have been seeing him for a while but he never introduced you to his loved ones, then it is a sign that he is not serious about you and you are just a side chick.
This is because he may not want his loved ones to know about you; probably he has introduced someone else already to them and he is just using you to pass the time.
2. He only calls or texts you at certain times:
Does he call you only in the daytime and never call you at night?
Does he only text you and claims to be too busy to give you a call?
The reason you have also noticed that his phone battery is always down at night probably, he is with his wife or the main chick.
If he only calls or texts you at certain times, such as late at night or on weekends, then it is a sign that you are just the side chick.
When you text him, “goodnight” I love you” and he replies “do you”
This could mean that he is married or has a girlfriend and is only available at specific times.
In addition, if your partner only contacts you when they need something, then it could be a sign that you are not the main chick.
This is because he is not seeing you as a priority.
3. He never takes you out in public:
How does he treat you in public?
Does he treat you as someone he truly loves, as a total stranger or his blood relative?
Does he make you duck in the car at every stop light when you people drive out?
And when you try to query him, he will be like; it’s not that I don’t want people to know about us; I just don’t want to give people something they will gossip about.
If he never takes you out in public places,or only available to meet you at odd hours for a limited time, then it is a sign that he is trying to hide you and avoid being seen with you in public.
He could be doing this because he is already in a relationship with someone else and is afraid he might be caught with you.
4. He doesn’t make plans for the future:
Has he ever, during conversation or chit chat featured you in his future?
Something like “I can’t wait to make you my wife or the mother of my children.”
Or he says something like, “be prepared. I would like you to follow me to my hometown to meet my parents this Xmas.”
If he doesn’t make plans for the future with you, such as vacations or attending events, then it is a sign that he is not serious about your relationship.
He could be doing this because he is not sure if he wants to be with you for the long term.
It is simply a waste of time to date a guy that has no future plans with you and if your partner does not make plans with you for the future, then it could be a sign that you are not the main chick.
5. He only wants to have sex:
If he only wants to have sex with you and doesn’t want to do anything else, then it is a sign that you are just the side chick.
This is a sign that he is not interested in a serious relationship with you.
If he prioritizes sex over other important things that matter in a relationship such as your personal needs, your dreams, your emotions or plans with him, then it is a sign that he is not serious about you.
He could be doing this because he knows he doesn’t love you but in the relationship for his selfish gains.
It could also be that his main chick and himself have agreed to be celibate till marriage and he just needs to get some.
6. He doesn’t post your pictures or celebrate you on his social media handle:
Have you ever tagged him on your post and he became uncomfortable with it and then asked you to delete with a flimsy excuse?
Have you ever requested him to post a picture of you both together and he stylishly declined it?
If your partner does not post pictures of you on social media or tag you in his post, then it could be a sign that you are not the main chick.
This is because he doesn’t want his friends or family to know about you.
In addition, if he is yet to give you a label before his friends that may be the main reason he finds it difficult to post pictures.
If your partner has not given you a label, such as my girlfriend or my wife to be, then it could be a sign that you are the side chick and not the main chick.
He simply doesn’t want to commit to a serious relationship with you.
7. He always has an excuse:
Does your man come up with intangible excuses when you tell him that you would like to know where he stays?
Does he give you thousands of immaterial excuses while he can’t be of help to your pressing needs?
You’ve been in a relationship with him for months and you don’t know where he stays, not once has he invited you over to his house.
Chances are he is married or the main chick is always around.
If he always has an excuse for why he cannot see you or be with you, then it is a sign that he is not serious about the relationship.
At times when you travel to his base, instead of him taking you home, he takes you to a hotel just to satisfy his selfishness.
He may be doing this because he is already in a committed relationship with someone else.
8. He never spends the night with you:
Does he ensure you don’t pass the night at his place no matter how hard you try?
Or reject spending the night with you in your place or in the hotel?
He never accepts to spend the night with you because he is timed by another woman, maybe his wife.
He definitely has to be home by a certain time to please the main chick.
If he never spends the night at your place or invites you to spend the night at his place, then it is a sign that he is not serious about the relationship.
He could be doing this because he doesn’t want to be caught by his real girlfriend or wife.
9. He never talks about his personal life:
Does your man dread an open conversation so that he won’t let the cat out of the bag?
You can only know more about your man when he opens up to you about his past, his family, his plans and goals, his bitter or sweet experiences.
If he never talks about his personal life or only talks about superficial things, then it is a sign that he is not serious about the relationship.
He could be doing this to avoid revealing too much about his true relationship status or his personal life.
Moreover, if your partner does not communicate with you regularly, then it could be a sign that you are not the main chick.
This is because he may not want to invest time and effort into the relationship he is fully aware that he is not interested in.
I will advise, don’t assume your place in someone’s life.
Don’t you assume you know your partner well.
Also, don’t ever assume you can change anybody, especially if your partner is the type that doesn’t accept corrections.
And lastly, never think marriage can change him either because marriage does not change anyone..
Many ladies also miss the right person for them because of a particular guy who is always around giving other men the wrong impression that she’s in a relationship.
I will also suggest you confront your partner and have an honest conversation about where you stand in the relationship.
Remember, you deserve to be the main chick and not just not a spare tyre.