Being with an emotionally unavailable guy?
It’s tough sometimes, right?
I mean, understanding what they’re after is like decoding ancient signs.
One day they’re all hot, then the next, they’ve got an emotional ice fortress around them.
They’ll shower you with love, and suddenly, poof! It’s gone.
Predicting their moves is mission impossible.
Honestly, this situation is downright tiring.
It’s like racing against time, and who wants to waste it on something that feels like a never-ending guessing game?
But you’re not throwing in the towel just yet.
There’s a glimmer of hope that things might change.
You’re hanging onto that hope, even though you’re not quite sure how to turn the emotional ice age into a warm commitment.
But here is the good news.
You’re not alone.
We’ve been there, and we’ve got your back.
So keep reading, and let’s decode some tricks to get that guy committing in no time.
Continue below.
How To Get An Emotionally Unavailable Man To Commit
1. Decode his emotions
The first step is to crack the emotional code he’s got going on.
Start by digging into his fears, past experiences, and how he communicates.
You have to get a sneak peek into his emotional world.
Once you understand the secret language of his emotions, you can find your way through the maze of his feelings.
Nobody is born to be emotionally unavailable, and something must have happened at some point in life that brought about this.
Or something is going on that is the root cause of everything.
This is what we need to find out so that you can know how to approach it.
It’s time to break down the walls he’s built around himself.
2. Establish genuine connections
There’s this Nigerian saying that goes, “If you want to catch a monkey, act like a monkey.”
Seriously!
So, if you’re aiming to get that emotionally unavailable guy to commit, you have to be available yourself.
Talk about your dreams, don’t be scared to talk about your fears, and let him take a sneak peek into the reality of your thoughts.
This is one way to give him the green light to talk about himself too.
For this love connection to work, you need warmth and vulnerability.
When you’re all real and open, you are setting the stage for the next level.
No more playing 20 questions or turning your relationship into a job interview.
Keep things real, keep it light, and let that genuine vibe work its way.
3. Patience is a virtue
Do you remember what they said about Rome not being built in a day?
That’s good.
A committed relationship is the same as being in Rome here.
Think of it like growing a plant.
You don’t check it every hour, expecting it to sprout instantly.
No, you water it, give it sunlight, and wait for the growth to happen gradually.
Relationships are made like this.
Your guy might not express his feelings overnight, and that’s okay.
Patience is a powerful habit to employ in your relationship.
This emotional commitment takes time to unfold.
So, resist the urge to hit fast-forward.
Give him the space to figure things out.
Let the emotional seeds you’ve planted germinate at their own pace.
Trust me, the commitment flower will bloom in time.
4. Be his safe haven
You will get him committed to you if you make yourself available as his go-to place, the spot where he can say his thoughts without worrying about judgment.
Yea.
Do you know what they mean when they call someone the listener-in-chief?
It means when he opens up, resist the urge to judge him.
Instead, be his comfort, a safe space for him to unwind.
It’s okay to let down the guard and be his unfiltered self.
And the way to go is to be present, listen without an agenda, and let him know you’ve got his back.
When he realizes you listen without judging him, he’ll be more inclined to share those inner thoughts.
5. Be independent
We’ve seen many times how emotionally unavailable guys fall for women who’ve got their own thing going on.
Somehow, they feel a woman that can handle herself would be able to handle their fears.
Show him that you’re the captain of your own ship, steering it confidently through the seas of life.
We don’t mean being arrogant, but that you should have your hobbies, goals, and a life beyond just being his partner.
Take your passions seriously, hang out with your friend, and let him see that you’re not dependent on him.
You will be more attractive and more interesting to him when you showcase your independence.
And you’re also letting him know that you’re not here to play sidekick.
You’ve got your life, which he can be a part of but not take the lead role in it.
6. Take interest in his interests
We all have a few hobbies, passions, and even some weird obsessions.
We enjoy ourselves and feel safe around people who engage with us in our hobbies.
They are the ones we call friends.
Taking interest in his interests works more than you know.
Whether he’s a sports fanatic, a video game guru, or a DIY enthusiast, show some curiosity.
Ask questions, even if you’re clueless at first.
You don’t need to be an expert; just share in what makes him tick.
I know you don’t like football but can you surprise him by watching a game together with him?
Or you join in on a gaming session, even though you’re more of a casual player.
It creates a connection.
Do you want to know why it works?
When you genuinely show interest in his world, it shows that you care about what makes him happy.
It deepens your connection and makes him more willing to open up emotionally.
So, show interest in his interests, even if you never thought you’d be into it.
He will appreciate that you’re not just tagging along but wholeheartedly invested in the journey.
Conclusion
Some people think people are set in their ways, but not me.
I’ve witnessed change in the unlikeliest of places, especially when love steps in.
You know the saying, “The things we do for love, no one can imagine it.”
Love’s a game-changer, tackling everything in its path.
And all those things we mentioned earlier, are love in action, even the self-love part.
Cause if you’re not looking out for yourself, good luck convincing your partner to stick around.
Give our tips a shot.
Trust me, they’re worth the try.
But don’t forget your gut feeling in this.
If, after trying all these tips, things are still on the negative side, maybe it’s time to reassess the relationship.
We want you to live your happiest life.
And happiness doesn’t cost a thing.
Go out there and be.