I have been here, and I must say it wasn’t pretty. My last relationship before I met my man was with a man who would suddenly ghost me and would be unreachable for a few days. When I finally reached him, he would apologize and say he was going through something. Because I wanted to … Read more
There’s this idea on social media that nobody is truly too busy for you. If they cared enough, they’d make time. I don’t think it’s that simple. Yes, if someone doesn’t care, they’ll always find an excuse. But someone can genuinely care and still be overwhelmed. The problem is telling the difference. A man who’s … Read more
I had a friend in university whose relationship taught me something I didn’t expect. She was with a guy who kept saying she never told him she loved him. She was baffled. She cooked for him every weekend, did thoughtful things constantly, and showed affection physically. What more did he want? When she told me … Read more
I know the men in this category didn’t wake up one day and decide to be the husbands every woman warns her daughter about. I mean, I’m sure you didn’t deliberately think, “Oh, let me be the husband who makes life a nightmare for my wife, the one who drains the joy out of a … Read more
I remember asking on Facebook if men felt butterflies in their tummy the way women do. And every guy who replied to me said yes. Now, before you come for me, I didn’t ask because I thought men were robots who were devoid of emotions. I was asking because I wanted to debunk the stereotype … Read more
I don’t think most men set out to be difficult to love. Particularly, if you’re reading this, I want to believe you don’t want to be a difficult husband. A truly difficult man wouldn’t even be interested in knowing whether or not they are. One, because there’s a character flaw and two, they are blissfully … Read more
I think we can all agree that if there’s one thing men struggle with in a relationship or marriage, it is opening up because they’ve been taught it’s a sign of weakness. So, the average man will likely not walk up to you and say, “I feel unseen,” or “I’m lonely in this relationship/marriage.” In … Read more
If you’ve spent enough time on the internet, you may have heard men advise each other not to open up to their women. Their reasons vary. But mostly, it is about being seen as weak by their women, and because they believe it will be used against them later. Now, as a woman myself, this … Read more
I remember watching this video clip on Instagram where a lady and her husband were talking about how she’d feel if he said he was going on a boy’s night out with all the single men. The lady said she didn’t care, that he could go. Even the husband was shocked. He asked her, “With … Read more
Most good men do not wake up one morning and decide they are done with their marriage. I don’t think anybody does, to be honest. Things like that usually happen slowly. One day, a man might think he can cope with the resentment brewing due to his wife’s actions or inactions. The next time, he … Read more