I like how people who lack understanding come to posts like this to say absurd things like, “You don’t need to do anything extra to keep your man. Any man who will stay will do so without you doing anything.”
I find it absurd because men are expected to do extra to keep their marriage in good shape and going, but some think that women do not need to do extra.
I’m talking about extra here, but I do not mean going over your abilities.
It involves making a deliberate effort to nurture your relationship with your husband, ensuring that your marriage remains healthy and harmonious.
Marriage is such a beautiful journey, but after a while, it is easy to fall into a comfortable routine.
This is a good thing, except that the passion that once felt electrical can sometimes give way to the monotony of everyday life.
When this happens, romance usually takes a backseat, and marriage becomes boring.
It is your duty to make sure that you do things that will keep your husband attracted to you.
Seduce him every now and then, and see to it that the passion in your marriage does not die.
6 Ways to Attract and Seduce Your Husband
1. Surprise Him with Something New
We researched social media and discovered that the ratio of men who frequently receive gifts to the ones who do not is quite a distance.
Most men on that thread could not understand what it felt like to be gifted by their wives.
Routine makes a marriage dull.
When things are done the same way over a period of time, it loses its excitement.
But there’s no reason why your marriage should stay boring.
One way to effectively break that monotony is to introduce something new into the relationship.
Your husband is always taking the bills and providing.
Have you thought of taking off something on the list with your own money?
Surprise him.
Or randomly send money to his account.
Or buy him something he really needs.
Surprising your husband takes the excitement level in your marriage from 0 to 100. \
2. Flirt Like You Did When You First Met
When your husband was wooing you, or if you had met and liked him before he started wooing you, you know how you used to carry yourself.
With so much grace, and doing extra so that he notices you.
There was a time or two when you even went forward with the flirting.
So, what happened along the line?
He is yours now, so you can’t flirt with him anymore?
That’s a lie.
If you want to keep your husband attracted to you or seduce him, you have to make flirting a regular companion.
Playful teasing, inside jokes, or simply sending him a flirtatious text during the day works wonders.
Leave him a sweet, suggestive text when he’s at work, and see what mood he comes home in.
Flirting with your husband brings back the fun, youthful energy that was present when you first started dating.
Compliment him occasionally, initiate physical contact, and reminisce about a special memory you both share.
These gestures will remind him of why he fell in love with you in the first place.
3. Be Playful and Fun
I was talking to a married man who made a passing remark on my playfulness, and I heard him wish under his breath that his wife could loosen up.
I’m not a relationship coach, and I live a life where I do not uninvitedly enter the midst of anyone’s marital troubles (I try as much as possible not to get invited) or give unsolicited advice to adults in love.
With this, I acted like I didn’t hear his worries.
But I couldn’t help but feel his agony.
You wonder why your marriage is so stiff and without any excitement, but you’re the one who has decided to take life too seriously.
Humor and playfulness can do wonders for rekindling the spark in your marriage.
Your husband should be the one person to whom you can show your lowest sides without shame.
And men love happy women who can express their happiness in their actions.
Letting loose and playfully enjoy each other’s company reminds your husband of the carefree days of your early relationship.
4. Dress to Impress
I hear women say, “I don’t intend to please anyone with my dress. I wear what I feel like wearing, and I don’t care.”
And I’ll just shake my head.
Because there’s nothing wrong with wearing only what you feel comfortable with, but why do you only feel comfortable in clothes that make you look like a beggar on the street?
With your husband who is ‘moved by sight’ at home with you?
If you do not seduce your husband, believe me when I say that there are thousands of women who are seducing him at every opportunity they get.
And what this does to your husband is that it makes it more difficult for him to fight temptation.
Because the ‘good things’ he is seeing outside, he doesn’t get to see them at home.
Your dressing game should always be on point as a woman.
This is not me asking you to go over the hill trying to get an expensive designer dress and a baked face every day.
You know the clothes that turn your husband on when you put them on—those are the ones you should focus on.
Keep yourself clean at all times and take good care of your skin.
Once in a while, go the extra mile to look dazzling and different from the usual.
This spices up things a bit more for him.
5. Be Attentive to His Needs
What does your husband want?
Do you even think about this?
Someone on social media said, “How can you possibly think that someone who takes care of you has needs that you can meet?”
Wow.
I knew social media was a wild place, but reading that comment made me realize the intensity of the wildness of social media.
And there’s someone else reading that comment that will swallow the idea of ever being concerned about her husband’s needs because “he takes care of her, so he can’t have a need she can meet.”
I guess we need to make an extra effort to guard our hearts against the heresies on the internet.
First, your husband, who may be earning real money and is super wealthy, may have needs that are not financial—needs you can sufficiently meet.
Think about it, pay attention, and observe. You’ll be able to tell what he needs and how you can meet these needs.
You can go an extra mile to ask him.
For all you know, he may need your head on his chest or a homemade meal from you.
Leave social media and focus on your husband.
6. Keep the Bedroom Exciting
I want to assume that if you are seducing your husband, you are doing so for the bedroom.
Sexual intimacy is very important in every marriage.
You cannot afford to trivialize it.
You have to keep things hot and spicy in the bedroom regularly.
Imagine seducing your husband into the same boring pattern whenever you can either change settings or your set of lingerie or even explore new styles.
After a while, seduction may not yield results if it is always the same boring routine.
You both should have these conversations: share your fantasies and check that you both are comfortable and that any new ideas come from a place of mutual interest.
The fact that you’re supposed to be attracting and seducing your husband does not mean that you should overhaul who you are or alter the dynamics of your marriage.
The whole idea behind this is just the fact that you need to introduce new and exciting things into your marriage to spice things up and keep it bubbling.
You know what works for your marriage and your husband—stick with those things, but be creative while doing so.